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    We do not enjoy the smell of Jasmine grown in our yard.

    There is a famous saying in Malayalam " muttathe mullakku manamilla". This means ' No smell for the Jasmine in our front yard'. The implication of the saying must be clear even without any explanation. Most of us do not mind what we have, but accept the same from others with much enthusiasm. Even food items prepared in home by our close ones we do not appreappreciate. Sometimes even we find fault with them. The person who prepared it with much expectation, may be our wives, would be feeling miserably hearing our comments. But when we go to some other house, may be of friends or relatives, we will spare no words to congratulate the person who prepared and served the food item. It might be the same good item about which bad remarks were given at own house the other day. Do you appreciate this attitude of certain people.
  • #615197
    The same thing has been expressed in Bengali differently. The Bengali saying goes: "Geo jogi bhikh pai na''. This means: Nobody give alms to local mendicant''.

    Truly, we don't respect known person, however brilliant he/she may be.

    Beware! I question everything and everybody.

  • #615198
    Very aptly said by the author. In Urdu there is a saying " Ghar ka murgi dall barabar" that means the chicken nurtured at the home is equivalent to pulses. In every home the house holds toil a lot to plan and prepare various types of dishes for the satisfaction and taste of the family members. And we eat them with much enthusiasm but never say thanks or give a pat to the house holds. At the same time when we eat some thing at our friends house or other relatives house , we immediately convey our best wishes and appreciation. In hotels too there are some suggestion and visitors books in which they would ask to append the taste and remarks. We forcefully agree for the taste and give appreciation message. We must have the courage to appreciate those who do good, then only they get more encouragement.
    K Mohan
    'Idhuvum Kadandhu Pogum "
    Even this challenging situation would ease

  • #615325
    Yes, knowingly or unknowingly we ignore the elder parents at home or our spouses who quietly do their work wating for a few words of comfort. Sometimes, I've seen men and women sitting at home in a sullen don't disturb mood that changes instantly when a phone call comes from their own family members or friends. This further saddens the other person who witnesses the change from grumpy to jovial and again grumpy. I had raised a similar thread as to why were are not courteous to our own families, many replies said there should not be any formal acknowledgment or appreciation between family members as they are our own. But I think it's human nature to appluade and expect simple thanks or a hug. Somedays, when I make coffee for both of us, the smile on wife's face, says it all. At home, when son and father appreciate daughter in law's cooking, it draws a sharp remark or disheartens the mother as she rarely received such comments.

  • #615330
    There is a similar saying in Telugu which says Prouginti pulla cura Ruchi. (Meaning: The sour curry made by the neighbour is tasty.) Another similar saying is Inti Chettu Vaidyaniki Panikiradu which means the plant in our house is not used for our medicine. This is a very common phenomenon. We never appreciate our females when they give you a good tasty food. But we will not hesitate to point out any problem in the dish. This will create a lot of disturbance for the performers. We talk many things like motivation, appreciation, rewards and awards etc in connection with our profession. But why we fail to apply the same logic in our house. If we fail to utter a single word of appreciation when the curry is very tasty or the biryani you enjoyed very much. This attitude should get changed. We should be able to appreciate our own people's efforts which make us happy.
    always confident

  • #615361
    True, it is often seen that we give less importance to things around us. When you cook something no one in the house is ready to appreciate but they are ready to taste the unhealthy tastless foods of the local restaurants. How sad is that.

    It is rightly said that we will understand the value of things only when we lose them. But that is a late realisation and is not going to help. What is the point if you did not understand the value of a person when he was alive and then regreting about it after his death.

    These days some people are interested in teaching the kids foreign languages and give less importance to their mother tongue. I don't find it to be a good practice.

    "Do not give up, things might not favour you always"

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