Just leave me alone: Often used by you?People have different needs, priorities and demands. At home, office, friends, even at schools, I've heard this phrase and wondered why people use this.
This phrase 'Just leave me alone' has a profound impact on the person receiving it. For instance, a junior staff has a doubt that is very basic in our view but in their view, it's a big deal as they do not want to commit a mistake.The supervisor utters, can't you figure it out. Just Leave Me Alone, The boss forgets it but the employee is hurt and embarrassed for asking such a question, becomes quiet and learns to ignore further doubts and does what he or she thinks is correct.
Imagine a smart kid who has found a way to make a colorful model aeroplane on his own and excitedly waits for the parents to come home. Parents are tired, as soon as the child gushing with enthusiasm finishes narrating his little achievement, abruptly the parent says Just Leave me alone now. The poor child's face fills with dejection and becomes sad instantly, goes off quietly in to the room. In a flash of a second, the exploring creative mind is changed to a dull follow the rules mind and the creative streak is snubbed out.
Between couples or people in relationships, arguments are common, in the heat of the moment, one of them utters 'Just Leave Me Alone'. It just pushes the relationship and the bond a few steps back. The person listening to this (often the wife) becomes sad and feels that the one person who should understand better, has just turned a blind eye to her feelings. It crushes their happiness and radiance for the rest of the day. Later they learn to curb their inner feelings and desires and carry on mechanically because of the hurt they have suffered earlier.
So, next time we have to use the phrase 'Just leave me alone', remember the negative chain of events that we set off in the minds of the people opposite to us. Instead, try something like, Give me a few minutes, Can we do this a little later or Can I get back to you.