'Idhuvum Kadandhu Pogum "
Even this challenging situation would ease
However to a large extent one has to be his own architect. Because the help one can get may not be sufficient to mould himself in the way one thinks. After all an individual is a member of a family and a society. Unknowingly we will be taking some from a person, another from a second person, like that it goes on. With all these one become an architect of his own. In this way most are becoming their own architect. It will, however, be difficult to prepare all details in advance as an architect does.
But we should not forget that we are a product of a blend of many things, many of which are not in our control. If everything goes on as we plan and hope then good. But it may no happen so always or for all.
For many there is proverbial 'gap between the cup and lip'.
Even whe we say that we are our own architects, we have to understand that we just do a small permutation and combination of the existing ingredients and parameters already made available to us. We have only limited control or restricted freedom..
I think we should be more humble and think of ourselves as someone who is walking along the path of life under the guidance of God. The term architect would be more appropriate to our parents, grandparents and teachers who in the early stage of life, mold us, prepare for our journey in life and let us walk alone but always at hand to guide us or help us at times of need. When people do not have such support, they trust God and move along. We should think ourselves as responsible drivers of the lives that God has given us.
We move on the guidance of God.