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    Are etiquette and manners actually related to education?

    Do you think one's educational qualification is related to his manners or etiquettes? Are the educated always better behaved than those who are not? What do you think is that shapes the character of an individual. Join this discussion and share your views. Let us ponder upon this well thought out point.

    There are many people who are well mannered and they will have a polite way of talking as well as putting their opinions forward.

    At the same time there are many who will talk with indifference and proud tone and will misbehave on one pretext or other.

    While correlating with their education I was not finding a pattern that whether highly educated are more mannered or less educated are more mannered or one of them more and other is less and other similar correlations. Does education have a role to play or it should definitely be a crucial factor in developing this trait is a question intriguing my mind.

    What is the opinion of the members?
  • #624644
    As far as My view goes there is no relation between the education and etiquette and manners. A very highly educated man can also behave very arrogantly. An uneducated and illiterate can behave very politely. If you go to a village and talk to a person who is even never visited a school will talk to you with respect. This is the nature of the person. It may get polished with education but there is no rule that all educated are soft-spoken and illiterates are rough. The behaviour comes from the way in which he was grown up. There are people who are born with a lot of money and they may be brown up in the house with so many servants around and their parents shouting on these servants. Once these children see that they may also get those qualities and may become proud. SO basically I feel this quality will come from his family background and the way how the parents behave and teach. That is why parents should always see that their children will get trained in a proper way and learn how to behave with others.
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  • #624948
    A wonderful thread with just one response? Education does influence manners and etiquette.

    Most of us are raised with good manners instilled by parents and teachers in the early formative years. It is as we grow and start exploring things and learning what was restricted at home that we gain knowledge of not so good habits.
    As our friend's circle increase, we are influenced by what we hear, what we see and our heroes of movies etc. Without our knowledge, we pick up many things good and bad.
    It is education at this point that shapes our manners as we grow older, learn to reason, learn to differentiate good vs bad.As part of education, we learn, interact and study other people, other cultures and even going abroad. All this leads to our own improvement and we become a rounded or more balanced person.

    So, our etiquette and manners are influenced by our upbringing in the early years and then by education during the later years.

  • #624949
    Our etiquettes and manners are not at all related to our education. It is what we learn from our parents. It is what we learn from our surroundings. The way of speaking, politeness, or rudeness, this all tendency we adopt from our parents as what we observe, we adopt the same.
    Education helps to become mature and add a few behavioral changes in us.

    Do what inspires you !!

  • #624951
    No, our manners are not related to our education. There are many educated who are ill behaved and many uneducated who behave well. Our manners depends on the way we are brought up by our parents. As mentioned by pooja, surrounding and the circle we mingle playes a role in education. Sometimes, though parents teach good manners, being in bad company a person might learn and imitate something else. So it all depends on the surroundings and our friends circle.

  • #624956
    Who said that the etiquette and manners are related to the education. When the child is born and start growing, each and every aspect of the life and intricacies to live in this world are taught by the mother and she is the first and best teacher for any child. Not all mother are educated, but still some good etiquette and mannerism are told to the child to follow. A child may deviate from such manners only when he is exposed to the world or joined in the school where he comes in contact with other child and tries to change his behaviour. Again a vigil mother can still control the child going out of the track and bring in required mannerism. Education is the process which also teach etiquette and manners but not the way a mother would teach to every child. And if the mother is not having that quality , surely the entire family can ruin.
    K Mohan
    'Idhuvum Kadandhu Pogum "
    Even this challenging situation would ease

  • #624968
    The term education used here in this response is not related to the qualifications but the values which the education imparts in a person.The etiquette and manners reflect the culture of a person. We get our culture by birth or by education. A person born in a cultured family gets these assets by birth. The education is one more important aspect which develops the culture in a person if he or she did not have them by birth. Education has its own part in the development of culture in a person. Few of the people do not get the culture by birth or by virtue of education and they remain uncultured through their life. It does not mean that all the educated are necessarily cultured people. Similarly, all the people born in an uncultured family do not remain so through their entire life. They learn it by education.
    " Be Good and Do Good "

  • #624987
    I don't think so that more educated are more mannered and have more etiquette.
    But manners and etiquette are also part of education, but it doesn't mean that this education needs to be the formal education of school and colleges.
    Manner and etiquette are an education which we get from our parents, teachers, surroundings and friend circle. And for this education one doesn't need to have the various high degrees or study in big schools and college.

    "It is hardest thing in the world to be good thinker without being a good self examiner"

  • #624998
    I think that we are a product of our upbringing and circumstances. Both play a vital role in shaping us. If how we were raised is the only deciding factor on the etiquette and manners that we imbibe then all our digressions should be blamed on our parents.

    Manners and etiquettes are not limited in how we speak and deal with others. They involve every aspect of our life. Do we lend a helping hand to a stranger, struggling with a heavy load? Do we offer a seat to the elderly? Do we push and shove and jump queues? Do we litter and spit on the road? Do we talk loudly, disturbing others?

    Not everything that we do is taught to us. There are a lot of practices that we pick up on our own. Basic courtesies like saying 'thank you' or holding the door open to allow a stranger to pass through, are all part of manners and etiquette.

    You just have to be in a busy place, such as a shopping mall or the airport to realise how we, as a people, lack basic courtesies. Whom should I blame - all the mothers or the system?

    "A love affair with knowledge will never end in heartbreak." -Michael Garrett Marino

  • #625053
    A good thread which will help for self introspection also. Most of us, the ISCians, are well educated or at least have the education to read and respond to the threads. So we can try to make a self analysis regarding our behaviour and etiquette. Has the education got anything to do with it. Perhaps we may be using good, sophisticated language in our conversations. But the reactions we make when involved in a discussion or debate may bring out the 'real man' in us. There education may not help.
    I have come across several aged persons who had very little education behaving like very civilised and educated persons. They can never be provoked. But what about several college students or such qualified people. They use very bad words and get easily provoked. Actions very easily replace the words.

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  • #625058
    I think the role of education is misunderstood here by citing products of bad attitude who are also educated.

    Education, in my view, helps the person to nurture the good things that a family teaches him or her as years go by. This is important because, a family cannot teach all the etiquette and mannerism ( beyond yes, please and thank you). Education brings on both knowledge and chances to practice what makes us a well mannered human being.

    @Sankaran sir.People with very little education are very civilized - I think we should attribute it to their attitude to learn( education) that life can teach us as we mature.

    Lastly, the changes we are seeing with some youths today is a combination of the changed focus of education ( overall learning has become competitive subject learning) and the easy access to good and bad (via media) and a mind that still lacks the maturity to separate the good from the bad.

  • #625153
    Manners and etiquette is something that is basically related to our attitude. It is not totally related to our upbringing or our educational qualifications. I think how well we react to a particular situation in a particular circumstance is what actually matter. There is no doubt that we become aware of certain manners and etiquette in the process of dealing with our day to day life, but it is how we manage it that matters.

    As Juana has rightly said, they involve all aspects of our life. We may call it by different names but the desired result would be the same. I think manners and etiquette can be comprehensively described as the way one behaves (written or spoken, active or passive) without disturbing or irritating others and at the same time being comfortable with yourself. A person having been educated and that too from a reputed institution may not be respected for his qualification if he starts speaking loudly on his mobile in between a discussion between friends or relatives. At the same time, an uneducated person who excuses himself and moves out before picking up his mobile would be considered as well-mannered.

    So, it is whether you know with whom, where, when and how to behave that would be the deciding factor rather than your educational qualifications or even experience in life.

    'He who does not understand your silence will probably not understand your words.'- Elbert Hubbard.

  • #625155

    Almost all of us is having double face when it comes to etiquette . We often try to show what we actually are not. Just because one is showing humble and good character not guarantee that he or she is really etiquette in his/her real life.

    We behave as per our experience we get in a place or organisation. It is natural that if you get good response from opposite people, you will tend to behave properly. It all depend on circumstances how you receive in your public life, you behave that way. If one is so humble and honest in work place and it is not the same at some other place, it does mean that he behave in both the places according to what he has experienced.

    This has nothing to do with education, what we receive, the way we return.

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    #634124. Ms Deepshree Sharm. Replies to threads that are older than 10 days are not permitted by ISC forum guidelines, it attracts zero or negative points.

  • #634163
    I find the thread is a 'sticky thread' with the blue symbol(pin symbol) given on the left in the index page listing.
    Hence new answers are allowed.

    (But not sure whether the thread is continued as 'pinned' by oversight)

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