Are relations about give and take?In our society relations be it with relatives or friends in many cases are always governed by the principle of give and take. When people visit their relative's house they give money or gifts to their children. Now when those relatives, in turn, visit your house they will also be obliged to give gifts or money in return. If they don't give then in society it is said that he was so shameless that he didn't give anything. On the other hand, if one side does not give anything then the other side also reciprocates the same. "They gave us this thing of this much value so we should also match and give back. They didn't give anything to us so why should we give?" I feel this is the thinking which is prevailing sometimes in the society.
In birthday parties if some relative or friend gives a costly gift to your child you become morally bound to give an equally costly gift when the birthday party of your relative's or friend's child comes. If you receive no gift than you also reciprocate the same.
Sometimes I wonder this give and take in a relation done merely for a show or are there any true feelings of love and attachment associated with it? I am of the opinion that this give and take is perfectly ok if there are done with real feelings but if the feelings are missing then it holds no value. Also, this give and take should be based on factors like financial condition, relationship closeness etc and not merely matching each other gifts blindly making it a necessary custom in the society.
If there is love and care in the relationship then even a gift of flowers is invaluable but if the relationship is just a false showcase then exchanging even costliest of the gifts hold no value.