Should immediate condolence calls after death be on need basis only?Whenever there is a death of someone among our close relatives or friends, just after one or two days we tend to make a condolence call to them to express our support for the grief-stricken family. I feel this has become more of a custom in our society and sometimes feelings do not play a part in such condolence calls. People take it as a formality and do it, thinking that if they don't then it will show them in a bad note in the society. Rightly so, we should show our support to the impacted families during such sad times.
But there is another way also to look at it. Sometimes due to the death people in the impacted family, members are in a state of shock and shattered by grief and as such for the first few days they do not feel like talking to anyone and wish to be left alone. During such times so many condolence calls from all corners can be a mental torture for the impacted family as they will need to talk about the death repeatedly. Personally, I also feel very odd to call people during such times and ask them what happened, how it happened and say just some lame words of condolence. It may aggravate their sorrow further. But at times during such losses, a family may need the immediate support of their dear ones as they feel alone in the moment of sorrow and feel like talking to someone to share their grief and to get some courage to bear the loss. During such times it is perfectly fine to make condolence calls right away.
So I feel that immediate condolence calls after death should be there on the need basis only. Offcource after some days we should call them when they have got over the shock a bit.