Who is the new empowered woman?
What does empowerment of women actually mean? Do you think that the present day women are empowered? Has there been a shift in the ground reality or is the process stuck in a myth? The author has expressed his opinion. Let us now discuss this point without getting too much excited. Let us have a fair discussion without indulging in any blame-game.
A recent superb thread pointed out the need for space for the working woman or a housewife who is not employed. The thread did point out that even the housewife really does need a break. The author had rightly pointed out the need for re-thinking of roles and, more specifically, the views of men on the changing roles.
Here is a totally different dimension. Who is the new empowered woman?
* Is she the woman, who is quite commonly seen ( in urban and metro cities, at least three in ten) who virtually want to contradict the views of the husband on every single issue, including the upbringing of children. (there are cases that end in divorce there is no meeting point at all) ? Is this empowerment?
* Among young unmarried women in the age group of 20-25, there is an increasing tendency to question every single religious or spiritual practice, saying it is " outdated". This is more so in urban India. They can be atheists that literally demanding or influencing the husband to become atheists is dangerous. Is it not? Is this empowerment?
* Another trend is about modern fashion. The same young unmarried women literally demand that it is their right to dress in the most modern way. Their own parents do not like this. And when the discussion turns towards marriage, the highly educated professional, demands that the husband "adjusts" to their way of life. The ISB and IIM/NIT/IIT men normally understand all this and play ball. The "mamma" boys do not like this. Divorces have begun happening just for this reason. Is this really empowerment?
Life and more importantly, marriage is always a bigger issue of giving and taking. It does mean adjusting and appreciating the views or ways of thinking of others. But are we now seeing the beginning of a new era of what is sometimes called as "empowered woman"?
What are the views of Members? At the risk of being branded an MCP, let me clarify. I have just seen the aforesaid three things happening in so many families in three cities of Hyderabad, Bangalore, and Chennai. I know the roaring practice of marital counselors who are laughing all the way to the bank. The girl who is divorced often has a huge identity crisis and with aging parents and the social stigma still being attached, they do lead very difficult lives, though all of them are in good jobs.
Whom do we then call as "empowered woman"?