What is the change you brought in your family's wedding tradition?
There are many age-old rituals and traditions that we follow during marriages. Do you think that some of them need to be changed? Do you feel that the way we conduct marriages have changed but we still stick to the traditions without understanding the requirement of following them? What do you feel about this subject? Let us discuss.
Today I saw a Bengali bride's viral video which touched my heart so deeply. In their wedding tradition, there is a procedure called Kanaganjali. It is to symbolize that the bride repays her debts to parents by performing kanaganjali. She refused to do so telling everyone that debts to my parents cannot be repaid. How true she is!
No one can ever repay the debt to their parents.
In Tamil wedding too, there is a similar procedure called Kannigathaanam. In this ritual, the parents of the bride, hold the hands of their daughter and give them in the hands of the bridegroom and his parents and says, "I donate our girl to this family and hereafter, she completely belongs to you".
My in-laws, who did not like the term 'donation' said, "Our daughter in law is not a thing to be donated. When the term donation is involved, then the giver will no longer be having ownership of the thing. So the term is not perfect to be used at a wedding. Just say that you are happy with this wedlock and you wholeheartedly send your daughter to this extended family".
It was a warm feeling and such a positive vibe circulated in the hall then. I remember, my parents shed tears at that time, not for parting with me, but due to the relief and contentment with great hope on my future.
Many rituals will be changed or given up if real meaning were understood. There is nothing great in holding tradition without understanding why it is followed. Seriously, new changes need to be evolved in wedding rituals and not just in changing the decoration themes, food menus, DJs, Mehendi etc.
Have you brought in any change in your family wedding rituals? Why? Share you thoughts for others to think about following it.