Don’t Spoil your relations with anyone – Is this a practical mantra in present world?We often hear experienced and people with well-balanced thought process saying, "Even if you are not going well with someone, do not spoil your relations with them, you never know in life when you may need help from them". It seems to be so true and practical as life is unpredictable.
Having said this it may be actually difficult to implement this. Humans are emotional and usually have a very strong sense of likes and dislikes within them. Just some incidents of difference in opinion, conflicts, quarrels etc with others makes them develop strong negative opinion about those people and they spoil their relationship with them. They feel that their ideals do not allow them to maintain relations with such people. They think that whatever happens in life they will never seek help of such people. But life is a very unpredictable and tricky journey and sometimes it lands us in the situation where we are so helpless that we may need help from even most disliked person.
For example, during the job switch an employee may leave his or her previous company on a bad note due to conflicts on relieving dates where an employee wants to get relieved faster, but the company does not cooperate. They will think that they do not need their previous company anymore and they in turn quarrel and spoil the relations with their company. Now imagine the situation when in their new company they need to give reference of their old company's manager or their new company fires them soon and he starts looking for job again. Now when he is not able to land another job he feels that had he not spoiled the relations with his previous company he could have easily approached them for job again.
Another example can be when we spoil the relations with some of our relatives and friends due to some unpleasant occurrences. Sometimes it happens that later in time we are in need of help and nobody is able to help, and we have no option but to approach that particular friend or relative. But sadly, we cannot as we have spoiled the relations with them.
Nothings is right and wrong here. There are two schools of thoughts. First, follow your heart and ideals and do not keep relations with anyone whom you do not go well with them, it may give you self-satisfaction. Second, follow your mind, be practical and do not spoil your relations with anyone. You never know when you may need them in life.
So which school of thought you are from?