Does "Tit for Tat" philosophy always work?"Tit for Tat" is the need for today. Nowadays you cannot expect to remain silent and not react when someone does wrong to you. If you do not follow Tit for Tat people consider you weak and take advantage. But does this philosophy always works? Can it sometimes be other way round? Can at times dealing with a situation with a calm mindset and without the feeling of revenge and anger does the trick to solve the issue? Well may happen sometimes, I feel.
One downside of Tit for Tat policy is that it arouses egos on both sides. If someone has done wrong, then I will reciprocate the same thing back to him or her and this keeps continuing on both the sides. They keep on giving Tit for Tat to each other and each time they do their ego gets hurt more and more and their anger and frustration increases. If he can shout at me then why can't I? This is the feeling that normally prevails.
But at times it happens that when a person does not take the things egoistically and reacts calmly on being challenged by another party it cools down the situation. This is because another person also starts realizing that if he is not reacting aggressively, then should I? Sometimes discussing the issues with anger and shouting doesn't work but in contrast calmly discussing out the issues and trying to make others understand works. Sometimes it happens that if one person shouts and other replies calmly it automatically induces the first person to calm down too.
Have you experienced any such situations where being violent and giving Tit for Tat did not solve the problem but on the other hand being calm and composed and not reacting with anger actually solved the problem?