Blend your advice and consolations with the spice of practicalityPeople who are in any kind of difficult situation in their life often tend to receive sympathy and consolation advice from their well-wishers and also from other people. These advices and consolations are normally very stereotypical and idealistic which sometimes fail to comfort the person in difficulty. Some example of such advises are "Don't worry, Whatever was to happen has happened, whatever happens, happens for good", Its god's wish, Whatever was to happen has happened, you cannot change destiny" etc.
Though these words are good to hear and reality too but sometimes they fail to sync with the person facing the unfavourable situation as his or her mind at that time is engrossed in grief, regret, or anger and is not open to such kind of idealistic words. Only a person going through a difficult situation knows how difficult it is to control his mind and emotions.
I think, keeping all this in mind, whenever we advise or console people in grief or difficulty, we should first try to place ourselves in their shoes to realize what the other person might be going through. After this, rather than giving stereotype advice which would be already given to him by loads of other people, we should try to make our advice different from the crowd and give more practical advice or solution which can gel with the person affected and comfort him. This may sound different to the affected person and his mind may accept these words and give him some strength.