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    Who are we, before we approach, who they are?

    Some times we fail to understand ourselves, our position, our draw backs, our set backs and yet try to approach others and advice them. For example when we approach a doctor, though we know the treatment of the past and how we fared through good results does not matter and we should not advise the same to the doctor. Every doctor has different approach to the disease and here our wisdom should work and keep quiet. If we start advising the doctor, then the matter could turn out to be bad to worse. So what are we must be answered before approaching others.
  • #711737
    Advising others is very easy. It costs nothing to us. The implementation of the advice will depend on the person. He may take our advice or he may not take. Even though we never ask, some people give us their opinions and advice us. So many people give so many suggestions. But as an individual, you should think and act.
    We should not give unnecessary suggestions to other people without knowing the problem fully. What is our level of understanding of that issue and what is our actual knowledge in that subject? These things are also to be studied. Once we feel Ok only we should suggest otherwise we should keep silent.
    Going to a doctor is to get the problem diagnosed and suggest medicines. If we have an old history and the doctor is new we should tell him the history so that he will know the history fully. But we can't tell him to prescribe the same medicines or we should not tell him what medicines he should prescribe.

    always confident

  • #711739
    First of all, we must never provide anyone with any advice unless asked for. Giving our advice or opinion is of no value to others if they do not value us, so we must not open our mouth no matter how good our intention may be.

    Regarding doctors, they now almost practice the same set of procedures of diagnosis by first referring you to a number of tests and then based on the reports advise you of probable problem and medicine. Although this does not apply to experienced doctors, they can detect problems from symptoms itself.

    In case of medical issues we must be wary of out tongue and experience as it may fail when it comes to diseases. The best burning example here is COVID 19. All the theories till date have failed regarding COVID 19 and still the vaccine is nowhere to be seen, only advises and precautions are floating and those too are changing frequently.

    Live before you leave.

  • #711740
    As for as doctor concerned, my view is to have a single generalist doctor for ourselves and our family members. Without any hesitation or second thought we should go to him whenever we require consultancy. This keeps both of us in a friendly manner. As he knows our as well our family members' health history we can avoid unnecessary tests, x-rays, scan etc.,
    As for as suggestions/advise concerned, we should see the recipient. Suggestions and advises should be given only on request or needed by others.

  • #711778
    The author is correct. People talk about knowing the world but do not know themselves. Rather do not want to know. Knowing yourself is the biggest lesson in the world. Who does not know himself, how will he know others? To know others, it is necessary to know oneself first. That is why it has been said that you start knowing yourself. It is possible to help someone according to when we assess ourselves. Advice is too valuable in life so first think about when advised someone and at the same time do not advise without asking.

  • #711793
    The title and idea are fine but the example, I think, does not hold ground. It is very much a fact that we need to know ourselves before we talk to or consult or discuss a point with someone. But, when we consult a doctor, we must tell him our past medical history and that includes the previous investigations, the treatment we had undertaken and the results so that the doctor is in a position to analyze and conclude our health issues and the mode of treatment he needs to adopt. I think that is a better option. Discussing your history with the doctor does not amount to advising him, it is just giving him necessary inputs to understand a patient better. I do agree that we must not interfere with his advice or suggest him modalities but sharing our records is a necessity.

    And, otherwise, it is always better to know yourself, your potential, knowledge or calibre in any situation so that you know how to react to particular people, circumstances or situations.

    'Mastering others is strength. Mastering yourself is true power'. -Lao Tzu

  • #711801
    I agree with the author that we should abstain from giving suggestions to others. Some singular type of people who are always prepared to advise everyone, unnecessarily open the bag of suggestions without thinking that their suggestions are unwanted and unwelcomed. Sometimes, these people become a laughing stock in the social circle.
    I always refrain from advising my youngsters if they appear to be reluctant to welcome any suggestion from their elders.
    What is the point to receive silent indifference from these young people who respect us too.

    As far as suggestions to any doctor or advocate or any other professional is concerned is nothing but stupidity.

  • #711867
    It is said that no one likes unsolicited advice and our doctor is no exception. It is also said that we should speak before we think what are we going to tell. It is better to be precise and accurate in our communication rather then telling many things at the time giving poor effect to the communication. It is always better to think ourselves before any such outbursts of our ideas in front of any professional person.
    Knowledge is power.

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