This is the "space" that women are talking aboutHere are two specific real-world examples. Am not giving any names. Both cases are known to me. Hundreds of young educated women are increasingly talking about "their space" in their lives. Before marriage, the girl is expected to conform to certain norms like being spiritual, dressing up in the most traditional way during weddings, and also simply obey their mothers-in-law on most occasions.
Today, this is exactly what is being questioned. If am an atheist, so be it. You have a right to be what you are, but "my space" is different. My space is all about real friendhips, fashion, eating out, Facebook, Instagram, Swiggy and what have you. It is sad that you did not grow up with these. But am different, my days are different. I just want to express myself. You better give me this libterty, this space. This is exactly what most women declare, literally, as their statements of intent.
From conservative Tamil Brahmin families, these women get married to men in New Delhi or Mumbai and just transition to that life, so smoothly. If the mother-in-law is encouraging and also educated, no issues. She would herself wear sleeveless blouses with sarees, and nine of ten husbands would play ball too. This is exactly what happened to a distant cousin sister's daughter.
In the second case, quite unfortunately the boy is a toss between the old and the new. He wants his wife to "adjust" to the terribly old types of spirituality and all that. Life at Coimbatore is never ever what this Tamil girl from Indore imagined. Daily fights with the husband are so common, just seven months into marriage. Just recently, the boy ( works in a major IT company) has got a job with another company and has deliberately chosen Mumbai. The parents have opted to stay back in Coimbatore. Who is right and who is wrong?
What is wrong with the "space" that women talk about? I for one, fully support them and respect them for what they are. Full stop.
But let us have a discussion on the wider issues.