I also discussed this issue with related family members. Suppose the girl was not beautiful, I asked the parents why did they marry their son, they said,"We don't know what happened to us we could not say no and agreed for this marriage. Even our son didn't say no to marry that girl. Now he he is complaining to us".
I have seen this reaction from several parents.
However if we are hundred percent fatalists, then we, he society, the country and the world will not progress. So it is prudent and practical to put our best efforts and when even after those things do not go as we decide console ourselves taking it as fate or pre-decided.
In that case we can take that partners are also fate decided. That is because we only chose our partner from the many alternatives coming in front of us. They are not tailor-made by us.
But to say that life partners are predecided then I would say that it's wrong.
" The two most important days in your life are the day when you are born and the day you find out why? "
– Mark Twain
K Mohan @ Moga
'Idhuvum Kadandhu Pogum "
Even this challenging situation would ease
Knowledge is power.
If the couple had made by God, then a sad moment like a divorce would not have come into anyone's life. But nowadays people also do a second marriage after divorce, in such a situation, who will tell which pair was made by God and which was by humans.
Keep your Face to the SunShine
In our village, a marriage was fixed. The groom and his relatives came to the village of the bride. The next day morning was the marriage. That night the bride vanished from the house. The groom and his relatives went back without getting the marriage performed. People forgot about that girl. But after 6 or 7 years she came back with a husband and a son to the village.
There are many incidents I know in which the almost finalised marriages are cancelled and new matches were settled. I know a family where they were looking for a match for their daughter and searching for a suitable match. years together. Finally, they settled a marriage with a boy from their village only. That is how these matches will be fixed and when we hear about such issues we feel that marriages are pre-decided.