Be honest and never surrender your self-respectWe often see families where a person goes abroad on the strength of his or her qualification and experience. In certain cases, the ego gets the better of the person and what happens is that he or she starts making fun and ill-treating his or her brothers and sisters and close relatives.
For sheer economic reasons, the economically weak person would meekly surrender and allow the massive ego of the rich person get better. However, I have known two brothers in two different families who braved all odds and educated their children in the Government schools and colleges and yet made them highly responsible citizens after education abroad and getting highly lucrative jobs in Australia and Singapore. Both these men have made generous contributions in both cash and kind to the humble Government schools in their native villages. They have also sponsored the education expenses of two very poor children each.
The parents have been extremely honest; the mothers in both families acted as cooks in two families taking care of senior citizens. The father's would sell vegetables and fruits on a part-time basis. They politely refused any help from their brothers who are settled abroad. The brothers have been quite kind, but the two men had the will to manage with scarse resources, with active support from their family members.
When such things happen, the success of the children becomes even more sweeter. There is a big pride to cherish for all time to come.