Sorry for your loss. May his soul rest in peace.
The cataract surgery is a breeze, nothing whatsoever to worry about. Various family members have undergone it and they have all spoken about the amazing visual they got during the surgery - seeing the rainbow spectrum! You may be in the O.T. for quite a while since the Surgeon will take you in about an hour early to get you ready and give the anaesthetic, and, post-surgery, you will be put in a recovery room where the Surgeon will come up and check on you. Since the date has been fixed, it is assumed that the Surgeon has given you a detailed schedule of the eye drops that need to be put in before, on the day of the surgery, and after. You must follow the time schedule to the T of each eye drop right to the last date over the span of a month or more as per the instructions. Please confirm about breakfast on the day of the surgery, whether you can eat before that day's eye drops are put in and ensure that what you eat after the surgery (before you go home) is as per any dietary requirements that you require. Ensure, too, that the eye drops that need be put before the surgery in the hospital are taken.
Regarding the eye drops and other things- here are some useful tips based on my role three times as the 'nurse' administering the drops for each of my relatives:
1. The bottles may not be easy to open, but need to be opened with care (you can tell the pharmacist to open them and put them carefully back in the box but see that they are then carried back home without tilting them) and the tips from where the drops fall should not be touched. People have this tendency to touch it to see if the hole is proper for a drop to come out! It can be slightly tilted over the back of a hand to check if the drop falls. Nor should the tip be wiped off. Simply close the lid of the bottle and put it back in the box.
2. The bottles can be confusing due to similar size, shape and colour; if so, put some small colour paper bit on the box flap to distinguish it.
3. Put all bottles in a separate box, not mixed with any other medicines.
4. Keep a wad of cotton in its own box. Why you need it - there is one milky drop which tends to dry up and leaves a white mark, as also to wipe the cheek if the drop trickles down. This can be wiped out gently later before putting in the next drop. Do not use the cotton to wipe out the eyeball. Cotton is also required to be put on the eye below the night cover cap (info. on it later).
5. Ensure that you have bought a pair of black glasses. Now, this is important because you need to block out bright light and mere fancy Raybans or other sunglasses will not do. The hospital pharmacy will have them if you don't get them elsewhere, and please show them to the Dr to ensure they are the right ones. You must wear them at all times at home and continue to wear them till the time the Dr. says it is Ok not to continue with them. The only time you won't be wearing them is at night when sleeping.
6. At night you will be putting on a cover cap over the eye in the initial few days post-surgery. This you need to buy in advance as well, along with the white tape to hold it down. The person who will be in charge of this should get instructions from the Dr. on how it is to be placed over the eye and the tape put across it (it must not shift). The reason for this cap is so that if during the night your eyes open, nothing will fall in it. This cover cap must be kept clean. I used to put it in a katori of warm water a few hours prior to putting it on the eye, and then wipe it down with cotton to dry it.
7. You must visit the Dr for follow-ups as per the schedule he tells you, as he needs to regularly check the operated eye. At any time you feel any unusual discomfort or itchiness, you must report it to the Dr immediately. Please keep his direct contact number handy with whosoever is staying with you.
8. The Dr. may allow you to read/look at your phone after 10 days, perhaps, and watch television about three or four weeks later. It all depends on the healing process. Personally, I would advise you to stay away from the laptop for the 45-day period. After all, it is a question of taking care of one of our most delicate organs. It is frustrating, no doubt. Listen to soothing music.
9. Coming back to the drops - I had bought a notebook and drawn columns with the dates and the time for each of eyedrops, ticking each off after the drop was put in. This ensured that no drop was missed out. You may also need to wake up early to have the first drop of the day put in. The whole schedule of all those numerous drops is likely the most tedious thing for you and the caregiver!!
And why do you want your daughter to submit forum threads on your behalf? It is that important an activity? I think not! Please ensure that both, you and your daughter (or whoever is putting the eye drops) gets instructions from the Dr of how to put in the eye drops (the part of the eye). Above all, take care to adhere to the SOPs for protection against the virus.
Of course, don't take my word for it on whatever I have stated here. As rightly mentioned by others, follow the Dr's advice. Best wishes. Post-surgery, we'll all of us meet you here after the 8th of February.
When you make a commitment, you create hope. When you keep a commitment you create trust! ~ John C. Maxwell