Can marriages between two highly assertive individuals be successful?Some forty or fifty years ago, marriages were more formal and serious affairs. Expectations on either side were not much. In fact, they were never expressed. There was some compromise in the marriage that the life partners somehow found common ground to agree more and disagree far less.
Cut to the present. Facebook. Smartphones. Whatsapp and the email. Communication is so complete. However, this same communication also seems to be creating more and more problems. Disagreements are so common. Verbal fights are common too. Increasing assertiveness is the name of the game. Either partner would not budge an inch from their own "assertive" positions. They always want "to be". The search for the "right wavelength" is a never-ending process, if the catharsis of som many anxious parents is any indication.
"Assertiveness" only means aggressiveness and a tendency to somehow make the other life partner " adjust" to his or her point of view. Is this a natural process? How do we deal with this issue?