K Mohan @ Moga
'Idhuvum Kadandhu Pogum "
Even this challenging situation would ease
In earlier days mothers used to spend hours together with the children and they used to manage them very nicely. The parents used to tell good moral stories to the child which will help them in shaping their future. But the parents ask the kids to see the youtube video games sometimes and sometimes they refuse to give them the same for seeing the youtube. Why they do like that is also.
Parents should not expect a kid to behave like a matured person. We have to see the mood of the kid and accordingly, we have to manage the entire situation. Then only children will honour our words.
Being parents need them maturity which comes over the time. You can not expect a young couple to treat their children as a matured couple. Maturity comes slowly.
As you mentioned, if a woman who is not even working and not ready to take care of the child then we can say they are not matured enough and they are not ready to take the responsibilities.
Maybe in my opinion this happens if the girl is married at an early age. So their mind is still not stable and cannot take up the responsibilities at an young age. Still they want to spend time as they wish and they want to enjoy their life and so they cannot accept this responsibility.
However, it's sad situation that mother is asking the child to be independent. Mothers always do everything for their children no matter how old they are.
Thoughts exchanged is knowledge gained.