The girl whom I met on a bus
We are all running behind fame and status and forget about how our children can grow physically and mentally healthy. Through an experience, while travelling, I got a wonderful insight into what is more important for their healthy development.
Recently I read a short poem about life's journey. That was quite interesting and conveyed a beautiful message and reminded me of a girl whom I met on the bus. It was a normal day for me to start and was on my way to college. It was around 8:15 am and I was waiting for the bus. Many others were also waiting and looked busy. I boarded the bus on its arrival. After a while, I found a seat and felt happy to be seated. It's hard to find a place even to stand during peak hours. I asked kids and also a couple of others to keep their heavy bags with me.
In the messy environment, people were struggling to manage themselves. Among the crowd I noticed a thin little girl may be aged between 10 to 12 years, pushing the crowd and boarded the bus carrying her heavy school bag. I asked for her bag too. But, she replied "You already have so many bags with you and how will you hold mine? I will carry my bag comfortably." I was astonished to hear that. I didn't understand what to react. For a while, all sorts of parenting tips moved like a film. Anybody in that situation would be waiting to make themselves comfortable. But this girl was out of the box. We hear people giving suggestions on parenting and even attending workshops. Do we really need to be trained to raise our own kids? Are they not our own replica? The girl's maturity and thinking about others' situation was appreciable.
We want good schools, good education, a good and healthy environment for our children to grow. The world of competition is leading to stress and making children mechanical. It is like they are being programmed with a prefixed routine. They are geniuses but becoming arrogant. They are intelligent but not hard working. They are excellent but do not have the right attitude. Life gives us comforts but we are not satisfied. Every parent thinks their child or children should never feel the pain that they have faced during their childhood. Raising kids is a project of almost twenty years or maybe even more!!!. In a few minutes, I learned my son should understand human values before everything he learns. Every parent is unique and works towards the betterment of their children. Giving comfort is not the only thing to be taken care of, but making children aware of difficulties also is an important part of it. They must be capable to stand strong under any circumstances as the girl stood with her heavy bag amid the crowd.
A few minutes of passage left an effective impact on me. My journey with her was very short. But a lesson taught was memorable for life. Thinking about the A smile on her face I ended my part of the journey.
Let the children grow without fear. Let the children be freed but with sense of responsibility.
"Make your children learn to live and not to leave"