K Mohan @ Moga
'Idhuvum Kadandhu Pogum "
Even this challenging situation would ease
An important form of honesty is, to be honest with ourselves as well as others. You agree or not, but it is a big challenge for us whether we are honest with ourselves or not. It is the nature of us humans that we lie to ourselves many times and then believe the same lie. A simple meaning of honest means that your thoughts are pure and you do every action in the same way as it is without any adulteration. This is a different aspect of honesty in my opinion.
Honesty is very sweet for the person who likes it. We have seen people who suffer many sufferings to stay honest. That should be the policy of all the persons. We were told a story during our childhood. One woodcutter accidentally dropped his axe in the river. He was worried as the next day he has no way to earn his livelihood. Meanwhile, the river God came out with a Gold axe and asked the wood cutter whether that is his axe. Honestly, he said that axe is not his axe. Then the God went into the river and surfaced again with a silver axe and shown it to the woodcutter. Agin the person replied to the God that it is not his axe. Then God came out with the axe of the woodcutter and shown it to him. He happily said that is his axe. The river God is very happy with the honest woodcutter and gave him all the three axes.
The story tells us that honesty will always pay its dividends to the individual.
Thoughts exchanged is knowledge gained.
No life without Sun
Honesty is a moral value that really sweet because it teaches a person to live a virtuous life and is helpful in making a true human being in every aspect of life.
I have a patient hearing. I heard all, but none could come out with the justification I expected. Why go all around to find whether the word Honesty is sweet or bitter.
The word Honesty has the word Honey in it. Is honey not sweet to justify the word is sweet?
No life without Sun
It depends on the degree and content of the fact and truth.
The old teaching : 'Satyam brooyaat,priyam brooyaat; Na brooyaat Satyamapriyam" still holds in practical life.
The meaning is ' Speak truth, speak pleasant ; Do not speak unpleasant truth".
But that does not give the licence to tell untruth. The latter part of the above verse is "Priyam cha nanrutham broouyat , Esha dharmah sanatanah'
-which means that never speak untruth even if it is pleasant, that is what is Sanatana dharma essence.
So, if a person has some good qualities, good work, compliment him by telling that pleasant truth.
Now for example of an unpleasant truth: it is how an experienced doctor deals with the relatives of a patient brought in a very critical and last stages. Even though doctor knows the serious truth that the patient will not survive, he will not brazenly say the unpleasant truth, but use other proper words to convey the situation. Or an advocate uses same technique to convey to his client about a sure-fail case.
Now regarding pleasant untruths: this is mostly practiced in breach. This is practised by sycophants and flatterers. Thus by continuously feeding pleasant untruths to the boss or leader, the sycophants cheat him practically and lead him to his doom. This has many practical examples in our present day life especially in politics and power corridors.
From experience I can say that the most painful situation is knowing the truth and not able to reveal the same due to some reason and have to keep it inside ourselves. It is real pain.
So our aim should be to be honest always, but reveal unpleasant truth in a very diplomatic and prudent way without causing sudden shock and damage. Similarly one should not resort to untruths at any circumstances even though that may be pleasant and rewarding.