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    Will marriage as an institution survive after two decades in India?

    It is a fabulous subject in sociology. It is called marriage. It is a sacred institution in India at the moment. It has lived it's course, though it has undergone some transformation in one way or the other. For example, inter-caste weddings are very common, almost everywhere in India. In New Delhi and Mumbai, one does find the inter-State weddings in terms of love marriages.

    The young are now beginning to really question everything. They are really trying to suggest that they could be friends even without a marriage and even have kids. One really does not know the legal implications, but this is seemingly the way it is in the advanced Western countries.

    The young who are highly educated and earn upwards of one hundred thousand rupees, post tax per month in the metros ( most of them even earn three times this amount) , are in the forefront of challenging the very notion of marriage. Around four years ago, I was witness to what is now called the Arya Samaj Wedding, where one Hindi priest did everything in Hindi and it was all over within 30 mts in Bangalore. it was a huge lawn with appropriate arrangements and I was later told that four such weddings took place in the same venue. The parents had also agreed for the change. Perhaps it was a bit cheaper than the regular weddings but the huge mantra that goes along in Sanskrit, spread over two days, was entirely missing.

    So, will our marriages survive, at all, after 20 years?
  • #730648
    The system of marriage and family will survive forever in our country. As mentioned by the author there may be some ups and downs. But it will not of completely western. How you perform the marriage function is different. I know during my childhood days the 5-day marriage system. Slowly it has come down to a 1-day marriage system. The marriage might have been performed as per the Hindu rituals or completed in the registrar's office, marriage is marriage. Our basics are very strong and shortly, we will not see having children with somebody without getting married.
    Our Indian culture is entirely different from western culture. Our system has its own advantages. So one should not get into the western culture leaving our own ways and means. There may be a small percentage of people who may argue on this concept but the majority may not go away from our own systems. The senior citizens of the country and elders should try to advocate our systems and culture to their next generation and see that we will continue our glory.

    always confident

  • #730684
    We should understand this reality that indian culture and western culture have big differences. It is not possible that entire undian population will accept western culture and their prevalent social practices ,however, a section of indian society will keep on following western society. Marriage is losing its charm and attraction to young generation in western society. They are forgetting marriage system. Why we should worry about it? The author has made up his mind that marriage in our society may be irrelevant in two decades or so but I don't think it is going to happen in our society. Live in relationship ir friends with benefits etc these social practices are not given social recognition and approval. However, everybody from top to bottom will say that it is the personal matter of a couple to live together and have children without marriage. They will not throw bunch of lectures upon them that it is wrong or right because it is their personal life and how they want to spend their lives, they are free to do so but they don't have any approval from indian society. And marriage is a relationship which us certified and approved by all and sundry on behalf of the whole social system.

  • #730701
    Marriage as an institution survived for since long. Some changes are gradually taking place. The inter-caste marriages which were a taboo not so long ago are becoming common now. Most of the youth are not particular about caste and religion. Now we find many inter-caste and inter-religious marriages taking place. The live-in culture has also crept in. The children born of live-in arrangements have equal rights as the children born of a regular marriage.
    The institution of marriage is undergoing a lot of changes. The rate of divorces is increasing. Single mothers are living without much difficulty and bringing up their children. The institution of marriage will survive but with a lot of changes. Without this institution of marriages, there will be a lot of problems in society. For the health of society this is very much required.

    " Be Good and Do Good "

  • #730703
    The author's assumption and presumption is wrong. India is a country with its rich customs, traditions and culture. India has a population of 130+ crores, with many thousand castes. The caste system won't allow us to shift from the marriage system. No doubt, there are inter-caste and inter-religion marriages, but the percentage of such marriages are very low and negligible. Of course, the marriage would be simplified with less time and less money.

    I am sure, the marriage institution in India will survive as long as the earth rotates.

    No life without Sun

  • #730712
    India has been known for its rich culture and tradition. The author's saying is wrong about the Indian marriage system. No doubt, we are rapidly moving towards western culture. But, this institution will completely end up with time is a wrong notion. Even today, very few people would agree regarding the view of having children without marriage. Change may happen in the marriage institution. No doubt, I completely agree that a lot of changes has come in our marriage system. Earlier marriage was performed for four days. But it has been transformed in one day or else registered marriage. But, the existence of
    Indian marriage institution would eliminate due to the high influence of western culture is not correct. And, it should not end at any cost. If it happens so then our society will collapse. Nobody would care to anyone. Then there would be no meaning of responsibility. Again, the promiscuity stage would start just like our society was before starting of civilisation. This institution is a must for a healthy society. It is our responsibility to save this institution.

  • #730717
    Sivakumar, at the outset, Sanskrit, mantras (sacred utterances) and extended period of marriage ceremonies are not common to all religions and castes in India. All religions have their own rituals for conducting marriages and they are different based on castes too. Also, inter-caste marriages and inter-state marriages are nothing new and have been around for decades now and that is irrespective of whether one is living in Mumbai or in Coimbatore. We are getting to see more inter-country marriages too these days though they are rare. So, let us not generalise the point based on such rituals and beliefs.

    Now, coming to your point, two decades is a long time and I don't think we can predict anything that may or may not be there at that point in time. But, yes, I do agree that the sanctity of the institution of marriage is seeing a gradual erosion and there are many factors, including the ones that you have pointed out, contributing to the same. Changes are inevitable in every feature of our life and we need to accept facts as they are. Unlike in the past, today we have young men and women moving to different places as part of their jobs and keeping the lack of affordable accommodation and the security aspect in mind, there may rise occasions where a male and female may have to stay together. This type of cohabitation may gradually develop into more intimate relations and they may start living as husband and wife. The freedom sought by our youngsters who are above their marriageable age is protected by law and we cannot, legally, interfere.

    But, that does not mean that the institution will vanish. It will still be there and will surely bounce back with all its sanctity and importance due to the lack of responsibility to each other and sincerity in a live-in relationship.

    Live-in relationship is still a taboo and is not socially accepted in India but it is not an offence. Though the partners in such a relationship do not have any proprietary rights over each other, various judgements have been passed by the Courts in India declaring the rights of an adult male and female to live together without getting married. The children, if any, born out of such a relationship will be considered legitimate and they will have all the rights over their parent's property and other responsibilities just as any other legitimate child would have. The lady staying with a male would also be protected by the Protection of Women from Domestic Violence Act, 2005.

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