Marriages -from mutual diffusion, fusion and bonding to contradiction, conflict and conflagrationThe above is not a list of rhyming words. But these are words which can aptly express the real changes married life has undergone for last few generations. The changes are happening gradually over years. This makes us doubt whether the institution of marriage itself will stay.
A man and a woman brought up in two different situations come together with a lifelong commitment to stay together. Each one imbibes something from the other. Each one sheds or discards something of individual characteristic. That is they mutually diffuse. The result is they fuse well and there results a strong bonding of emotions and purpose. From then on it is almost like conjoined twins. They mutually complement and supplement. If one is hit both get the pain. If one gets happiness, pleasure is there for both.
This though may sound Utopian imagination now, was the reality in most marriages earlier. It is still happening in many, though quite rare in numbers, even today.
However overall, it starts with confusion, either o them are not ready to shed their individual characteristics and go, not ready to absorb other's characteristics even though good and imitable.
In atomic bonding the extra unwanted energy is released. In human bonding the heat energy of individual ego is released. In the absence of fusion bonding both individual bodies high energy to stay so and this energy slowly burns them or in confrontation, leads to a destructive conflagration.
The difference is that there can be varying degrees and forms. This post is prompted by my observation during last few decades.
Members may discuss from their observation too.