When a person of the family dies, the family will be in sorrow and they can't enjoy their time. So the friends and relatives who are staying around try to passivate them. These relatives and friends will be trying to maintain a low profile during these days so that the family of the deceased family will slowly become normal.
In my home state of Uttarakhand's Kumaon region if a dead person is connected to someone by the ties of more than four generations that person will have to follow sutaka rules for three days and when the separation of generation is less than four-generation ( like grandfathers uncles) he/she will follow sutaka rule for 10 days and immediate family for 13 days plus the immediate family will not celebrate any function for one year, not visit any big pilgrimage centre (till the time of Barshi one year of death).
In ancient times It was written down to keep the family units ("Kula") united despite the separation of generations and it is still doing that function.
Ín these modern times it is not feasible to expect everyone to follow these rules and restrictions of eating, clothing and worshipping so when it comes to following Sutaka rules it should not be enforced it should be left to an individual will if he/she wants to follow these rules or not.
Even though I don't believe in these things but two years ago when my grandfather died I followed all those rules as I believed it will somehow make my grandfather's soul happy and will give him peace.
Ultimately I believe any kind of faith, rituals and rules should be left to the discretion of individuals rather than enforcing them, if people have faith they will follow these rules if they don't then following these things doesn't make much difference.
"It is hardest thing in the world to be good thinker without being a good self examiner"
The people in heaven to enjoy the beauty of good works served,
To enjoy the results of normal works such as fulfilling assigned duties or to hell, people suffer the punishment.
It is said in the Gita that the process of going to soul place, hell place, father place, and heaven place forms the path of Dakshinayana or Krishna Gati. Uttarayana or Shuklagati through which the soul reaches the mediating God or Divine Father. In this world we live are called the mortal soul place.
Accordingly, we maintain the formalities for the overall improvement of the soul of our departed family member.
Believe in the existence of God the superpower.
K Mohan @ Moga
'Idhuvum Kadandhu Pogum "
Even this challenging situation would ease
Knowledge is power.