'Idhuvum Kadandhu Pogum "
Even this challenging situation would ease
In earlier days, daughters were not considered for a share in the property of the parents. To compensate that parents used to offer some money or land or some other assets as gifts to the girl. Slowly this practice has turned to a demand from the boy's side. I know many girls who could not get married those days as the parents are not able to give the dowry.
But I am seeing a change these days. The dowry system is coming down. Many parents are not asking for any dowry. The availability of girls is less these days and boys are not getting matches and many girls are having their own specifications to accept a boy. So times are changing and I hope shortly this system will go from society. In the olden days, the parents of the boy used to pay money to the parents of the girl. Later that has become dowry and slowly the system is going away I think.
So far so good but with time some of the families of the boys started to demand huge amount of money and material from a girl's father and threatened him not to marry his daughter if he did not pay that. As the demand of the boys in the market was more and they chose the girls as per their choice many parents of the girls succumbed to that demand. That is the origin of dowry. It is a menace. But till there are families which are demanding it this menace is going to stay. There are cases where even the ugly looking girls or handicapped ones got a boy easily by paying huge dowry which naturally is in the nature of bribe. Dowry is the manifestation of human greed only.
Knowledge is power.