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    When both pardon and punishment have no effect


    What should be done when neither a pardon nor a punishment causes any change in a person? Give your suggestions when such a situation arises.



    One of the traits of being a good human being is that one knows how to forgive people. This has been taught to all of us since childhood. When we grow up, we start to understand the importance of punishment, at one time we ourselves used to run away from punishment and considered it wrong, but today perhaps we also learn to take the help of punishment to bring someone in the right direction. Of course, both the methods are necessary, which are adapted depending on the time and situation, but what if both your apology or your punishment is not affecting the other person. Perhaps it should only mean that your thinking does not exist in the mind of the person in front and hence your opinion is not important. What do you think about it?
  • #750107
    By forgiving a person you are relieving yourself, so the ultimate effect is on you. But punishment may be considered a measure to reform the person committing a crime. It is very difficult to say how our behaviour affects the other person as the thought process of the individual varies. The most important thing, in this case, is the willingness of the person to change. Punishment is meted out so that the crime is not repeated, but there are repeated offenders too who do not wish to reform. For example, one will be cautious after being fined for not following the traffic rules and the other will repeat the same thing many times. It is a type of stubbornness in the thought process that allows a person to think that she/he is doing the right thing always.
    Sankalan

    "Life is easier when you enjoy what you do"

  • #750108
    The concept of punishment does not work out well especially with children. It is better if we use love and explain the wrong doer his fault in a soft way. On the other hand,if you punish the child becomes further more rigid and might commit the same mistake again. Earlier reward and punishment used to be practiced together which was termed as using the' carrot and stick policy'.

  • #750122
    When the individual had a fear of punishment only, that will work to set him/ her right. When there is no fear of punishment people behave as they like. That is what exactly happening in India. People have no fear of getting punished if they do a mistake. They know that there are lawyers who will help them and see that the case will prolong and finally will get diluted. Many of these people will get bail and they start roaming on the roads without any fear.
    If we go on punishing every time a child will become immune and she will never care for our words. We should have a stick in our hand but we should use it very rarely and when it is a must only. Then only a child will have a fear of punishment. In our high school, our social teacher was used to be very strict but never used to beat anybody. By seeing him itself we used to have fear.
    We can pardon somebody if they did a mistake for the first time. But if somebody is doing the same mistake intentionally again and again we should not pardon him. Otherwise, people may take us lightly.

    drrao
    always confident

  • #750123
    Forgiving and punishing are two age old methods of tackling with a person and settling an issue. Many people use them often in dealing with others.
    There are some important things which are to be understood in this context. First of them is whether we are in a position to forgive someone. Is that person ready to accept that? If he says that he had not done anything for which you have to forgive him then what will be your stand? So forgiving is not a one sided affair. The person whom we are forgiving must acknowledge it with due sincerity and thank for it. Otherwise it would be a wasteful gesture.
    Similarly punishment is also something like that only. Are we having any authority to punish anyone even to our family members? Does the person to whom we punish accept our authority? These are the question which are to be answered before taking any action in these matters related to forgiving and punishing someone.
    Forgiving and punishing depend on the situation and circumstances also and are to be exercised with due diligence.

    Knowledge is power.

  • #750127
    Pardon and punishment need to be understood first before arriving at the decision over then. While pardoning is the great trait and not every one has it. By pardon we mean we are forgiving the wrong doing of a person aimed at us and our taking the issue light and not giving credence to the act is also a shaming mode of punishment to the person who must realize that had we have taken harsh action, that could have been more damaging than envisaged. And regarding punishment, that is not in our hand. The police and courts are tbe best place to evaluate and decide who has to be punished on what grounds and for what time and where. Because we have no iota of idea on punishment and simply because we do not like the other person, the punishment cannot be accorded or harsh. So leave it to the law or get away from the person.
    K Mohan
    'Idhuvum Kadandhu Pogum "
    Even this challenging situation would ease


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