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    Death and obituary meetings

    Despite not having been around for somebody in the hour of need, some people will attend a condolence meeting to pay respects and talk about the deceased. Is this really necessary and are the speeches really genuine forms the basis of this interesting discussion.

    When the death happened yesterday and many attended the funeral service, then what is the need for arranging the obituary meeting today and making the visitors speak on the achievements and relations had with the person who was dead? Those who already made their presence felt on the day of death and laid their wreath on the body, again came today and shared their strong bonding with the person who was no more. Are the people really speaking the truth at these meetings, as many were not seen during the trying times of the same person and now sharing the wonderful relations ever had?
  • #750256
    The author has expressed his personal views here, which may not be acceptable to everyone.
    It is normal to cry. There is no fault in being sad when relatives are lost. Whatever the situation. It is better to do it in a way that will help him to cope with the issue of his life. If tears come to his eyes, it is important to let him out. Anything needs an end. It is not possible to keep mourning under wraps. All the rules of mourning help to accept death.
    However, in the event of the death of a great benefactor of the general public, it is better to discuss his merits in the general assembly and express our gratitude to him, and whatever it may be, we must admit that it is evil in the so-called Europeanness. As soon as it is done, it is necessary to resort to artificial artificiality. Because if everyone performs his social duties according to his own taste and heart rate, then there is no limit to disorder. At that point, a universal bound rule has to be resorted to. Even personal grief and expression of devotion cannot be controlled by the rules of society without an emergency.
    Just as in our country patriarchy is held in a public meeting and it is considered a public duty of every fatherless person to express patriarchal mourning, in public meetings mourning for the death of a great benefactor of the public should be considered as a social duty.
    I think if a loving hand is seen with a gift, then the value of that gift increases a lot and his memory is imprinted in the heart.

    Believe in the existence of God the superpower.

  • #750276
    Obituary meetings are a convention of a sort and to some extent related to the sentiments and feelings of the family and friends. So though it might look like a redundant affair but some people will like to have that type of meetings and would express their feelings about the departed soul. These things are related to the sentiments of the people and it becomes difficult to change the schedules fixed by them.
    Knowledge is power.

  • #750289
    When the parents are alive not caring for them and after death donating money in the name of their parents is of no use to the parents. That may be useful to the children to gain popularity as good donors and people may think that they love parents very much. But the truth is different.
    As mentioned by the author, attending obituary meetings and talking about the deceased person is only to get some personal advantages or an eye wash activity to show to the family of the deceased. It is only a show-off. Nothing more than that.
    Some people may even not come to see the dead body on the day of its demise. But they come for the tenth day event and talk as if they know that man very well and they have a very good understanding. It is also an only showoff but not a sincere way of expressing their love towards the deceased person.

    always confident

  • #750301
    Paying condolence to the deceased is one of the decent norms of the society and when a person leaves the world,the relatives and friends are called upon to pay their homage to the dead person. People consider it a bad manners to speak ill of a person who can not defend himself or herself. Many people speak only good deeds the person had done while living and bury the hatchet. As the people present are close to the dead person, they might surely be knowing about the wrong doings which somebody have done but do not speak out then. Of course, they would gossip at the back.

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