Many of us think the people huge money are happy but in real life they themselves also have some worries and problems and thereby lost their sleeping. Similarly the difference of opinion persists in every house if only husband and wife living even without child. Couples of love marriages as well arranged marriages too stand before family court, can we come to a conclusion that marriages should not committed by oneself. Every thing is in our own mind as our mind do not accept others suggestions, comments, criticisms. Clapping with one hand raise no sound but two makes noise. Similarly if there is no understanding between couples, brothers, sisters, in laws automatically a joint family or secular family have chaos. A brother of mine sent a message of his own to some relatives under copy to me and when I saw that message found some errors which clearly seems to be an error and when I pointed out that mistake he just saw me with a strange view and comments that I am always finding faults. Similar to this, in a joint family elders always expects perfection from the youngsters so as to pave the youngsters into a right way. But youngsters do not understand their view but instead planning to go separately. If a person joins in an organization, he/she is expected to follow the rules and regulations etc., though it differs from his or her earlier company, Similarly daughter in laws are expected by mother/father in laws to follow the practice of their house as the incoming people are the future rulers, as gents are not main people in the family running. But wrongly understanding this the daughter in laws imagine themselves they are obstacles for their rights and individuality. So the question of secular family is coming and they hate joint family system.