Is the family of the boy willing for your marriage, if you leave your family and come out? If they say that it is better to convince your parents, can your boyfriend convince their family members and marry you without the blessing of your parents?
The way you described it, it is very difficult to convince your parents. So, discuss with your boyfriend and tell him that you will come out of your family and marry him. If he says OK for it, you tell your parents that you can't wait for long and at any cost marry that boy and also tell them that you are ready to sacrifice your family to marry that boy. Then your family members may understand, how much serious you are and may accept finally. If still they don't accept, you have to go ahead with your plan and slowly after some time your family will accept your marriage and they will be normal with you.
This is very unfortunate that parents never try to gauge the likes and preference of the girl for marriage and only harp on such issues and matter which does become stumbling block to the marriage. In your case I must appreciate your great gesture and courage to accept the boy with some eye problem. You say that his family and good and belongs to orthodox family. What I feel that the boy seems to be intelligent and has the knack to settle for his life as he runs the coaching institute. And you being the the techie, surely the life would be great and going. Have the courage to face your family and get ready to for marriage with the same boy. In fact I was eager to mediate on behalf you with your parents had they reside in Hyderabad. I too have many Odia friends and one such is Mishra, a brahmin and gives lots of respect to me.
'Idhuvum Kadandhu Pogum "
Even this challenging situation would ease
Your parents may have some issues because your boyfriend has lost one eye. But if both of you can lead a normal conjugal life, they will definitely bless you and your partner in future.
Best of luck!!!
“Khamosh rahoon toh mushkil hain, keh doon toh shikayat hoti hain" (It is difficult to remain silent; But if I speak, they complain.) --------- Saba Afghani
In your case your parents are not agreeing with your choice. You have to take a judicious decision in the matter. How much are you sure that the family of the boy will accept you in toto. Another thing is the reliability factor of the boy. Many times in the young age due to infatuation people err in their judgement and fall in wrong relationship. One should be very careful in this matter.
If you are very sure and confident about all these things then take your own decision in your life as you are a mature person and legally capable of taking your own decisions.
Knowledge is power.