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    We shouldn't criticise others. Do you agree?

    When we criticise other people, they will go defensive and try to argue. In their attempt to prove them right they will start criticising us also. They try to justify their actions. This may create a rift among the people and misunderstandings will crop up.

    Criticism will have many evil effects. A person's pride will get wounded. He feels that he has lost his importance. Instead of criticising the other person, if we think from his point of view, we may be able to understand his thought process. This will make us understand their reasons. Even after that if you feel you should point out their mistakes, do it privately with him but not in public.

    Before we criticise somebody, we should know that human beings are more emotional than logical. Do you agree?
  • #756455
    It is true that in most cases, our emotion works more than logic but at the same time, criticisms do help. The problem is we cannot gauge how the other person takes the criticism and that's why it's always necessary to remain cautious while criticizing others. Criticism should not be unnecessary just to humiliate the person in front of others but must be to make the person better. It is always better to spell out the corrective measures along with criticism so that the person understands the fault and that is also in a way so that the person doesn't feel humiliated. When we care for somebody we need to show them their mistakes and that's a good way to correct them. As mentioned by the author it should be done in a different way and not in front of others.
    Sankalan

    "Life is easier when you enjoy what you do"

  • #756460
    Many people are habitual of criticizing others. It is their hobby to do so. This is not a very good trait but it is so common in the society. Criticism is only good when it is done in a constructive manner. The other person should not be offended by that.
    Criticism done in absence of a person is generally taken as back biting and is definitely a bad trait and is not in a good taste.
    We should avoid the habit of criticising others and talk in a straight manner.

    Knowledge is power.

  • #756466
    When we point out a finger at others we must remember that three fingers are pointing towards us. While the pointed finger is targeted towards mudslinging opposite person, the middle, ring and the little fingers are pointing towards us which suggest that the offended person may go all out to destroy our pride and reputation within no time and we would be struggling to recoup from the situation and those who were having good intention and trust on us are also start distancing from us. Moreover some people are always on tow to know the weakness of the opposite person and when over the criticism is made, they would reveal all our weakness in front of others, who may be our best friends, had much regard as the mentor or well wisher and above all the damaging verbal duel would spoil our mood to such extent that we have to go sulking.
    K Mohan
    'Idhuvum Kadandhu Pogum "
    Even this challenging situation would ease

  • #756468
    It is a sign of shallowness in people's personality who criticise others. Nobody has any right to fight fault in other people.

    People criticise others due to jealousy. They cannot adjust with other people's success.

    If somebody rises above them, then people try to find fault in them to compensate for their own weaknesses and failures.

    Let us encourage each other in sharing knowledge.

  • #756471
    I am not going to the question whether we should criticize, or not. We must continue to criticize because it is our favourite pastime. We must learn how to criticize even a grand achievement, from the famous NDTV anchors.
    “Khamosh rahoon toh mushkil hain, keh doon toh shikayat hoti hain" (It is difficult to remain silent; But if I speak, they complain.) --------- Saba Afghani

  • #756473
    What the author has suggested is to be followed by all maintaining decency in our behaviour. The best way is to avoid criticism of a person not available with us in the face to face. This is the right manner also since any criticism done in his absence might be known to him after sometime and this could ultimately create bitterness in the relationships.
    However, the same culture is not being followed always at least in our Indian tradition and most of us are engaged in this bad habit for passing their leisure hours. The ultimate effect would be the termination of long friendships sometimes, though this aspect is not thought of while criticising others.

  • #756490
    It is a sign of shallowness in people's personality who criticise others. Nobody has any right to fight fault in other people.

    People criticise others due to jealousy. They cannot adjust with other people's success.

    If somebody rises above them, then people try to find fault in them to compensate for their own weaknesses and failures.

    Let us encourage each other in sharing knowledge.


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