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10 Mar 2023 12:45

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Why do we expect things from others which we do not do for them?

Many people are very selfish. They will not help anyone. They will even not respect others. They will always be thinking about their work and their own benefits. At the same time they will expect help from others. They feel that people should ask them and respect them whenever they are in a difficult situation. But from a practical point of view it is not possible because most of the people believe in reciprocation. This world works on the principle of give and take. When we do something good for others then only we can expect something in return.
What is your experience in this regard? Please share your views.

#770298

10 Mar 2023 13:57

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What the author has projected in his posting is absolutely correct that we maintain reciprocality always and that, too, is the natural phenomenon. In distress we expect from our known people to come forward to help us and such a demand is not unusual. We can see many people busy with their own activities but in the events they are facing any inconvenience, they would even invite us for extending help. Though there are some who might come forward to help them but the same gesture is not available to them from all their known people. It could be reminder to such fellows that reciprocality in the maintenance of the relationships is always better.

#770306

10 Mar 2023 15:07

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Every action will have an equal reaction. When we help somebody we should not expect them to help us back. But the person who got help from us should help us when there is a need for us. That should be the attitude of the individual. But some people as mentioned by the author think that they deserve help from everybody and they need not help anybody. That is a very wrong attitude. But I personally feel that when we help others, we will get the required help from some or the other source when it is really required.
I have seen some people who never care for the problems of the opposite person but always expect others to serve them. Such people will definitely suffer in their lifetime and there is no chance to escape from that. Many of the present-day politicians are of this type only.

drrao
always confident

#770308

10 Mar 2023 15:12

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I agree with the author. We are selfish and we do not do for others what we want for us from them. It is a natural process. But if we want to be a good person and a good human being we should always do the things with others that we want from them.

Honesty is the best policy.

#770309

10 Mar 2023 15:15

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Often we tend to expect things from people when we do something for them it is always a give-and-take exchange even in relations which are based on love we want some form of reciprocation. It is very rare to have such relation where we don't have any expectations, and if we have that kind of bond with someone I guess it will truly be a wonderful thing to have.
The only way to live happy is to reduce our expectations from others but very few people are able to implement it.

"It is hardest thing in the world to be good thinker without being a good self examiner"

#770313

10 Mar 2023 16:21

Joined:	04/05/2009
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Points:	31372

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The author is correct cent percent. I have seen many persons like this. Moreover there are some people around us giving work to/commanding others but not bending themselves to any work. But the type of persons as told by the author, are our relatives the effect is more to annoy.
Once a family friend of mine compels me very much to come for a function in his house. In spite of my telling that I could not avail leave from my office on that day, he and his father compelled me to come for the function. Without any alternate, I put half a day leave in my office and went to that function. Even after half an hour of my coming I could not find my friend and I shocked to hear the reply from his father on my asking for him. His father simply replied me that he went to his office on some urgent work.

#770386

12 Mar 2023 19:02

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We may be selfish and only concerned about our own needs and desires. In this case, we may expect others to fulfill our expectations without considering whether we are doing the same for them.We may have different standards for ourselves and others. For example, we may hold ourselves to a higher standard and expect others to meet a lower one.We may be lazy,so we expect others do for us.

Service to mankind is service to God.

Why do we expect things from others which we do not do for them?

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