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#776894
The author has presented a situation which we can see around us at least in the well cultured families where both the parents are well educated. They have realised that the present situation is the tough situation in terms of the job market and the best ones are to succeed in this tough environment.
They are definitely right in the context of their perception but they should realise that everything has the right balance of the allocation of the responsibilities according to the situation.
Play up to a certain stage is not bad since it nurtures the mind of the toddlers and this must be allowed to them for fostering their growth. If they are missing this stage, they would loose the same forever. During this stage, they learn the different skills including the creativity, innovation and many valuable inputs from their parents. Hence this stage is the crucial part in their lives.
Once they pass the stage of seven years, they should be gradually be given assignments of studies with a touch of love from the parental sides apprising them of its importance in their future career.
We should not be in a hurry to make our kids Scientists or the Technocrats in a couple of months. Let it be in a natural way.
They are definitely right in the context of their perception but they should realise that everything has the right balance of the allocation of the responsibilities according to the situation.
Play up to a certain stage is not bad since it nurtures the mind of the toddlers and this must be allowed to them for fostering their growth. If they are missing this stage, they would loose the same forever. During this stage, they learn the different skills including the creativity, innovation and many valuable inputs from their parents. Hence this stage is the crucial part in their lives.
Once they pass the stage of seven years, they should be gradually be given assignments of studies with a touch of love from the parental sides apprising them of its importance in their future career.
We should not be in a hurry to make our kids Scientists or the Technocrats in a couple of months. Let it be in a natural way.
#776896
Yes, it is true that in many families parents are giving too much attention on the child and think that he should learn as quickly as possible so that he attains an excellent academic career later. I think this is happening because of the tough competition around for getting a job and making a career. Most of the parents feel that only academic pursuit can prepare their children to be able to get jobs.
In this process the parents are simply transferring the pressure on their head to the pressure on the child. Every child would not be able to cope up with such a pressure from parents.
I personally feel that parents should have a balanced approach in this matter and handle the child in a careful way.
Thoughts exchanged is knowledge gained.
In this process the parents are simply transferring the pressure on their head to the pressure on the child. Every child would not be able to cope up with such a pressure from parents.
I personally feel that parents should have a balanced approach in this matter and handle the child in a careful way.
Thoughts exchanged is knowledge gained.
#776897
In earlier days, family planning was not there and we used to find more children in one house. So parents are not concentrating only on one child. They used to understand the abilities of their children and accordingly, they used to train them. If one son is good at mathematics, another son is good at science. But these days the situation is different. We are two and our one concept has developed. So both mother and father are concentrating on their only child. That is where all the problems started.
Parents should understand the interests of their child and accordingly, they should guide so that the child will perform well. They should not try to impose their interests on their children. But that is not happening. Every parent wants his/ her kid to be the best and the first rank holder in all the classes starting from Nursery to PG or PhD.
It is always better to talk to the child and the teachers of the child and see how good their child is and accordingly, they should advise them regarding their higher studies.
drrao
always confident
Parents should understand the interests of their child and accordingly, they should guide so that the child will perform well. They should not try to impose their interests on their children. But that is not happening. Every parent wants his/ her kid to be the best and the first rank holder in all the classes starting from Nursery to PG or PhD.
It is always better to talk to the child and the teachers of the child and see how good their child is and accordingly, they should advise them regarding their higher studies.
drrao
always confident
#776901
It is not that today only the parents are so much concerned about their children. In earlier times also they were worried about the children and their future. Only thing is at that time there were limited avenues and limited options for progressing ahead. Most of the young people did what their parents had been doing as a profession or business.
But today the modernisation and technological advancements have changed the whole scenario and there are many things that can be done by a student after completing the education. At the same time due to significant increase in population there are many contenders for the same position and that is what is worrying todays parents. That is the reason of stress on them and that is also the reason why they start pressurising the children.
Knowledge is power.
But today the modernisation and technological advancements have changed the whole scenario and there are many things that can be done by a student after completing the education. At the same time due to significant increase in population there are many contenders for the same position and that is what is worrying todays parents. That is the reason of stress on them and that is also the reason why they start pressurising the children.
Knowledge is power.
#776903
My opinion is parental involvement should be more on children especially in daily routine. Parents should talk with children freely by not thinking as pampering.
According to me the situation prevailing in the house is a main reason for lack of interest in education in some children. Many parents are not treating their children at par and they do not even casually talking to them. If we lay conditions and show strictness in them develops a good character and habits in them. But to the other side they hide themselves from the parents. In some houses the parents are abusing and criticizing them often that too in front of others, which makes them more irrelevant.
we read in daily newspapers that the children are going to the suicide level too for strictness from parents from seeing mobiles. Here also the main culprit are parents. A person seeks the hotel only if there is no food available in the house. Similarly if the house situation/ climate is not alright the child automatically seeks alternative. If boys means they go out to play with other boys but if girls means they sit with mobiles. I have seen earlier that many parents even disconnect the cable connection for their televisions for their children's study. Now I have noticed in one house that as the mother wants to see some serials in television, asked her daughter to study in the other room by realizing the interest of mother. Her husband, the father also advised the child to understand the mother's TV interest as it is the only rescue for her from her household works.
In those days my grand father, father's younger brother showed more interest in making us to have knowledge other than school subjects. They took us to the post office/banks etc., and teach us how to fill up the challan, money order forms etc.,
When we sat for study in the evenings my mother and aunt sat at the entrance of the house by talking with other outsiders so as they need not come inside the house which could disturb our study. Moreover, during the examination times, we all prepare for our examinations by writing our lessons with chalk on the floor, backside of doors. My aunt (father's brother wife) used to get tea for us by 11 pm in night to motivate our studies. On the next day without shrink in face my mother and aunt wipe out all our writings cleanly so as to enable us for the next evening. They never asked us to do this and that but trained us even in cooking only during the vacations. But now how many mother and father doing like this? Many mothers asking (commanding) their children to do household works in order to make them to learn everything. This type gave a vent to them to escape from the studies.
In another house I have seen a girl stopped her school going in her 9th standard because of the advise from her parents both that not to go to the school with her father's brother, who helped them by taking the child to school and pick up as her mother is a handicapped one. They sow ill thoughts in the minds of school going child.
According to me the situation prevailing in the house is a main reason for lack of interest in education in some children. Many parents are not treating their children at par and they do not even casually talking to them. If we lay conditions and show strictness in them develops a good character and habits in them. But to the other side they hide themselves from the parents. In some houses the parents are abusing and criticizing them often that too in front of others, which makes them more irrelevant.
we read in daily newspapers that the children are going to the suicide level too for strictness from parents from seeing mobiles. Here also the main culprit are parents. A person seeks the hotel only if there is no food available in the house. Similarly if the house situation/ climate is not alright the child automatically seeks alternative. If boys means they go out to play with other boys but if girls means they sit with mobiles. I have seen earlier that many parents even disconnect the cable connection for their televisions for their children's study. Now I have noticed in one house that as the mother wants to see some serials in television, asked her daughter to study in the other room by realizing the interest of mother. Her husband, the father also advised the child to understand the mother's TV interest as it is the only rescue for her from her household works.
In those days my grand father, father's younger brother showed more interest in making us to have knowledge other than school subjects. They took us to the post office/banks etc., and teach us how to fill up the challan, money order forms etc.,
When we sat for study in the evenings my mother and aunt sat at the entrance of the house by talking with other outsiders so as they need not come inside the house which could disturb our study. Moreover, during the examination times, we all prepare for our examinations by writing our lessons with chalk on the floor, backside of doors. My aunt (father's brother wife) used to get tea for us by 11 pm in night to motivate our studies. On the next day without shrink in face my mother and aunt wipe out all our writings cleanly so as to enable us for the next evening. They never asked us to do this and that but trained us even in cooking only during the vacations. But now how many mother and father doing like this? Many mothers asking (commanding) their children to do household works in order to make them to learn everything. This type gave a vent to them to escape from the studies.
In another house I have seen a girl stopped her school going in her 9th standard because of the advise from her parents both that not to go to the school with her father's brother, who helped them by taking the child to school and pick up as her mother is a handicapped one. They sow ill thoughts in the minds of school going child.
#776905
"But, earlier people's involvement was less in their children's education. As a result, they were more rough and tough. "
The author has asked us our view on this. Frankly, I am not able to get what the author means. Is it that the earlier children were 'rough and tough' because of the non-involvement of parents in the children's education? If that is what the author means, then I disagree.
I am one of such children whose parents did not(rather could not) involve in the child's education. would clarify that they were not involved directly, but facilitated the education in whatever way they could.
My mother was educated formally up to the then sixth forum. Hence she could not assist in my lessons beyond certain classes and her English knowledge was preliminary, and I was studying in English medium. My father was running a shop and did not get much spare time to be involved in my lessons directly. (But I recall, once he corrected me when I uttered a maths formula wrong.)
But I can say that I was never rough and tough. Habits and character formation are quite different from formal learning and lessons. Parents can develop good character and behaviour in their children even if the parents are illiterate or very less educated. That is a part of the culture and family background and upbringing.
All parents, irrespective of their education level, job status and social status can spend some time with their children regularly or as and when possible just to make them feel that parents are interested in their matters. Simple queries like how was the day, who is your maths teacher, what lesson they taught today, did you understand the lesson well, how was the exam. when is the next task, exam, has her/his friend rejoined after illness, etc.
The children should be made confident to confide in you about what happens in school and outside your home. It does not matter that you do not understand the higher level subjects or language. You can be frank with them on that. They will understand. But listen to them patiently and engage them in some small queries and responses. Be on their side when they stay late studying and help them with small tasks like making their beds, giving occasional soft drinks, coffee, snacks etc. That is enough to make them understand that you are doing your best for their welfare and growth.
Children should be taught and trained to manage their time well distributing it to various tasks like studies, play, socialising, family, entertainment, worship and prayer etc. If this is cultivated at the earliest and ensured as a regular habit, then children can easily manage any tasks in future as per their age and needs.
The author has asked us our view on this. Frankly, I am not able to get what the author means. Is it that the earlier children were 'rough and tough' because of the non-involvement of parents in the children's education? If that is what the author means, then I disagree.
I am one of such children whose parents did not(rather could not) involve in the child's education. would clarify that they were not involved directly, but facilitated the education in whatever way they could.
My mother was educated formally up to the then sixth forum. Hence she could not assist in my lessons beyond certain classes and her English knowledge was preliminary, and I was studying in English medium. My father was running a shop and did not get much spare time to be involved in my lessons directly. (But I recall, once he corrected me when I uttered a maths formula wrong.)
But I can say that I was never rough and tough. Habits and character formation are quite different from formal learning and lessons. Parents can develop good character and behaviour in their children even if the parents are illiterate or very less educated. That is a part of the culture and family background and upbringing.
All parents, irrespective of their education level, job status and social status can spend some time with their children regularly or as and when possible just to make them feel that parents are interested in their matters. Simple queries like how was the day, who is your maths teacher, what lesson they taught today, did you understand the lesson well, how was the exam. when is the next task, exam, has her/his friend rejoined after illness, etc.
The children should be made confident to confide in you about what happens in school and outside your home. It does not matter that you do not understand the higher level subjects or language. You can be frank with them on that. They will understand. But listen to them patiently and engage them in some small queries and responses. Be on their side when they stay late studying and help them with small tasks like making their beds, giving occasional soft drinks, coffee, snacks etc. That is enough to make them understand that you are doing your best for their welfare and growth.
Children should be taught and trained to manage their time well distributing it to various tasks like studies, play, socialising, family, entertainment, worship and prayer etc. If this is cultivated at the earliest and ensured as a regular habit, then children can easily manage any tasks in future as per their age and needs.
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