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    Lack of sharing and caring at home can be disastrous.

    In many houses nowadays, the inmates are not talking freely and even they are not sitting together for at least sometime and remain engaged with their personal chores or hobbies. Either they are sitting in different places or even when they together, they keep meddling with their individual mobiles or laptops. This attitude affects many genuine persons in the house, especially the children.

    Recently, I happened to overhear two college students in the bus. One girl was expressing her annoyance to her friend that her parents do not even care her presence in the house and are always busy somehow or the other. She was worrying about her poor status in one subject and wanted to have some tuition but was afraid to approach the parents since they were always busy. This situation is found in many houses and no parents are talking freely with the children of any age.

    This lack of sharing and not sparing time for the kids leads the children to share their problems or events with others which in turn might prompt others to exploit the children in different ways.
    Free communication and interaction lead to a cordial atmosphere in the house and parents can assess their children in all respects like their study, behavior and friends etc. In one city a girl used to copy her lessons from her friend's guide and read from mobile when she travels in bus or sitting at home. But misunderstanding this practice, the mother spoke to the father about her in another way and on shouting and scolding from her father this girl committed suicide, and later came to know from her friend what was actually going on. But it was too late by then.

    So let us act and react on time and maintain cordial relations at home so that we are all happy as a family.
  • #777408
    It is a serious issue and what the author has indicated is not far from the truth and the same scenario can be witnessed in some families where family - members are busy with their own assignments not bothering to talk anymore with the rest of the family - members.
    They are bussy with their hobbies in most of the times. In the midst of such preoccupation, they would move out from their residence to take up some tasks pending from long time.
    This has resulted in total termination of the normal relationship of the family - members.
    The kids are affected badly since they cannot approach their parents for their problems - be it a stationary or otherwise. Lack of communication is the result of serious consequences including suicide in some instances.
    While comparing the culture of indian families in twenty years back, there was cordiality in the relationships among the family - members always caring the needs of one another.
    However, the consoling point is that not all Indian familes are following the same scenario as indicated by the author. Most of us are sensitive enough to take care of our near and dear ones.

  • #777409
    It is a very good topic from the author. These parents think their responsibility is to give their children a good education and all the comforts. In that pursuit, they spend their time earning or engaging otherwise with their other jobs. They will never try to spend time with children. This is more so with fathers than mothers. That is why many children try to spend time outside the home with friends. A family stays near my house. The father is always spending time in the club. Their mother is busy with her friends and meetings. They have two children. Both of them always spend time with their friends and never concentrate on their studies. There may be many families like this.
    Due attention should be paid by parents towards their children. Just providing comfort and giving them money is not the only responsibility. They should be brought up with proper care and attention. All family members should have at least one male daily together so that they can discuss all their issues together.

    drrao
    always confident

  • #777417
    The author has raised an important issue which is to be taken seriously because it is a question of upbringing of the children in the best possible manner. Parents have to give care, affection, and support to the children as much as possible but at the same time they have to be alert and strict in some matters where discipline and punctuality are required. So, they have to take a balanced approach and also see that children should never feel ignored or neglected.
    There are some parents who take some time out of their busy schedule and play indoor games and have other entertainments with the children and children start feeling friendly with them and then confide and discuss with them all the matters in their minds. If we treat our children in that way then they will tell all their requirements to us only and will not share these things with outsiders.

    Knowledge is power.

  • #777426
    Generally, parents take care of their children. It is a natural thing to do so. But in today's materialistic word some parents are too busy with their jobs and are not able to give time for the children and depend more on the servants or nannies to take care of the children as well as give them company. In such a situation children do not feel friendly with their parents and look at them as very different persons always busy with their work and not attending the children.
    The children who are growing in such an environment sometimes develop a complex in their mind that they cannot talk to their parents freely and openly. This is not a healthy situation. Children require a warm and friendly atmosphere for their growth and if it is not there they will grow up but with complexes in their minds which is not a good sign.

    Thoughts exchanged is knowledge gained.


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