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    What is the tonic you take frequently to be 'Happier'?

    Many people asked me this question. They wondered how I keep a smile always on my face. I never felt such a good quality in me, but I took few minutes to respond. True, we can't be always looking happier. But many people manage to live in the state of happiness. The formula they apply to solve this puzzle, as many feel, should be shared.

    Let us share our views about the key elements that influence a person to be Happier.
  • #777826
    We are human beings and have sentiments and emotions. We feel happy in some situations while feel sad or even depressed in some other adverse situations.
    Some people are able to ignore the adverse situations and consider them as inevitable. By doing that they feel relaxed and remove the stress from their minds. But it is not easy to do so. May be it requires practice and meditation to reach that calm state of mind.
    Even if I try to remain happy sometimes something happens that hurts me or disturbs emotionally. Such phases are common but they last for a short time. Still their effect is considerable.
    Ignoring bad episodes in our lives and not expecting anything from others is said to be a mantra for sustained happiness but the problem is to adhere that fully in one's life.

    Thoughts exchanged is knowledge gained.

  • #777829
    We all yearn for happiness but it appears a distant dream and we only remain chasing it. Experts suggest techniques and mantras for keeping oneself happy but how effective they are is the big question.
    It is said that people satisfied with their present and contented with their belongings are generally happy. On the other hand those who are always worried for earning more and are never satisfied with their present status generally remain tense and worried.
    Another factor is that remaining with friends and family members and socialising also makes a person cheerful while the lonely souls appear to be sad or unhappy most of the times.
    So far, I have not experienced any sureshot method to remain happy.

    Knowledge is power.

  • #777838
    It is a valuable post from the author's side. We must strive for happiness as far as possible. No one will tell you the secret formula of fulfilling this status. Though we remain preoccupied with a lot of activities which demands a lot of skiils and time for accomplishment of the same. We remain stressed so long as the the job is not completed.
    Moment of happiness can be attained by recalling up the old moments of togetherness with our loved ones though it might be a short one due to a schedule of next job.
    However, we need to enjoy the moment of happiness in hours of leisure to avoid the boredom of life.

  • #777841
    There are different types of people. Some people are happy inside but never show it on their faces as others may think he has no problems. Other types of people try to present themselves with a smile, showing others they are happy even though they have some problems. It is always better to keep a smile on the face. Smile adds value to us. The face looks better when you are smiling. That is why a photographer always asks us to keep smiling so that we appear better in the picture.
    There is no person in this world without any problem. Everybody will have some or the other problem. The individual has to try his best to come out of the problem. If we require any help we can get them from others. But one should not get scared and get worried 24/7.
    If we are satisfied with what we have we will be happy always. Expecting more and if we fail getting disappointed will take away our happiness. However, not having high expectations will make us happy always.

    drrao
    always confident

  • #777872
    I also have a smiling face and try to be happy always. I take all the things positively. I want to be positive in life. I strongly believe in the GOD and think that the GOD always do the things which are the best for us. If you believe in GOD, you will always be happy.
    Honesty is the best policy.

  • #777941
    I feel contented in my life. I honestly trust and thank God for all the kindness he has bestowed on me. For outsiders these may not be of any significance. But I know, I experienced it, experiencing it.

    I am blessed with a kind spouse, blessed with a son, now blessed with a daughter in law.

    To list about my material assets, I have a very small dwelling place, which is smaller than the free dwelling units Govt gives freely to homeless people. But for me it is akin to a Palace. That is, because, for building it myself and wife saved coin by coin for many years and then took a loan of an amount which we felt could repay in due course by controlling our expenses. I do not own any vehicle.
    I could see that all my siblings are married, settled and ensured they also have their own homes. I did (with the strong support of my wife) whatever maximum I could do in all these, as head of the family in the absence of parents.
    God is very kind in giving me a very supportive life partner.
    Even now I do not splash my savings or pension income. But I am not a stingy miser also. Once in a while indulge in some small luxuries, go on tours and pilgrimages, socialize, spend time with some of old classmates from primary class, High School and college.
    My wants are less, no greed, now only prayer is to have a normal health for my age for residual years.

    I am happy because I am always aware how much better.., better.. I am now than the day when I badly needed a job due to difficult situation of the family. I also thank God that He gave me a normal body and mind whenever I go to a hospital and see people suffering various issues, or read reports about people suffering many ways and even taking their life in desperation and helplessness. I also do my mite in helping others even unknown to me,

    All these make me humble, content, happy and blessed. It is in mind: not easy to come , but needs constant practice and self- teaching. God bless all.

  • #777970
    From the above responses, I too agree that there is no specific modus operandi to be happier always. Your lifestyle, self-discipline, withstanding against odds and being happy with your possession would play an important role in everyone's life.
    Regards,
    Jagdish

  • #779309
    I want to share a recent experience in this regard. In the morning time many senior people are visiting the nearby park for walking and we often chit-chat for a while before returning to our houses. One day one of the old person told me that he had some problem in accessing the old messages in WhatsApp. When I offered him my help he became very happy and I could solve his problem. Next day I found another person approached me for some setting in his mobile camera and I happily helped him. Now if there is any problem related to their mobile phones they are approaching me to help them. I also feel happy about it getting a sort of importance also.
    These problems are not so difficult and they can get it resolved in their houses asking the young people there who would do it in much better fashion than me but they feel much free to ask me and I also feel good about it.
    So this is one example that there are many such things which make us happy. Basically it is helping others just like that without expecting anything in return.

    Knowledge is power.

  • #779316
    The posting of Umesh prompted me to post my experience. We have a temple near our house and the people who are regular visitors and the priests in the temple are well known to me. When we meet there in the temple after having the Darshan, we sit outside for some time. Oneday one of the visitors told me that his visit to the temple every day and the time he spends here keep him the whole day happy. So there may be many events that make different people happy.
    drrao
    always confident


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