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    Should parents throw their ambition on their kids?

    My kids have given 10th board exams this year.

    They are in confusion what stream should they choose this year. Being an engineer I want them to take "Science" but my son wants to pursue commerce and I am worried if that will be a good option and I feel if I force him to take "Science" it may not be fair.

    Don't you think parents sometimes don't allow our child to do what they want to.
  • #778098
    Children will have liking for some particular area or stream in education and parents should consider that. At the same time children are of tender age and are not so matured as to take such decisions alone themselves.
    The child psychologists tell us that children generally avoid or ignore the areas which appear tough to them. For example if Biology seems to be a difficult subject to a student then he or she will never agree with the parents for attempting the NEET examination. It is not that he or she simply dislikes the Biology subject, the fact is that it appears a difficult proposition to him.
    Parents have to find out not only the interest of the children but also observe their performances in the respective subjects before taking any decision for their career.
    As regards Commerce as a subject, I feel that it is a good stream as there are immense opportunities ahead.

    Thoughts exchanged is knowledge gained.

  • #778099
    It is a sensible question. The kids make their decisions once they grow up and attain the age of 15. It is because they develop a passion for some subjects and they would like to pursue these subjects. You can motivate your child on how the science stream can be advantageous in terms of his career in future.
    Your kid might go in favour of your suggestion but not necessarily he might go in the same way as you think. You are correct that you cannot go beyond his liking otherwise the outcome of your extra pressure can have an adverse influence on the kid's mind. The only solution lies in taking him into confidence for his better growth.

  • #778101
    Firstly, I would like to evaluate your post from a parent's perspective. Here also the North and South barrier plays a crucial role, don't mistake me to say like this. I lived in various parts of the country and travelled extensively, closely observed the pattern of the education system prevailing. In the Southern belt, the line of thinking of parents from the beginning of the child's education would be to see him/her as a Doctor or Engineer. They impose their ambition on the child, put him in techno school which assures them of keeping in right track to crack IIT or AIIMS as the case may be. This tendency is more in the twin states of Andhra & Telangana and Karnataka.

    While the scenario is different in the other parts of the country. All the subjects i.e Science, Engineering, Medicine and Humanities are well honoured and subjects are opted based on the choice, mostly of the ward. Preparation for Civil Services and other exams conducted by the UPSC/State Service Commissions get a front row in these areas. Many people opt for MBA irrespective the colleges while there would be a bigger competition again to crack CAT and other related examinations in Southern belt.

    It is not my intention to differentiate between regions but you can see the pressure parents and students take to get a berth in IIT/ AIIMS. It sometimes so happens that the student couldn't settle down properly even after getting a seat in an IIT/AIIMS.

    Coming to the point you raised in this thread, your son is too young to decide and your role is important to see whether he could withstand to the Science subjects which are very important to decide the career of a student at +2 stage.

    Regards,
    Jagdish

  • #778107
    Children will be showing varying interests during their growing up period. Sometimes they will appear more technical while at times simply attracted to arts. In such a situation it would be difficult for the parents to find out their real interests and then push them in those territories.
    Some parents feel that they can guide their children in an attractive path to force them to become a doctor or engineer but that is not always possible because many children show resistive tendencies and do exactly opposite to what the parents desire.
    In my opinion parent should be patient enough to wait and watch their children to grow and become independent in their thinking and learn taking decisions.

    Knowledge is power.

  • #778110
    A Doctor wants his son to be a doctor so that he can pass on his legacy to his son. A lawyer wants his son/ daughter to become a lawyer. This trend has been there for a long time in both the Telugu States. The majority of parents want to see their kids either as doctors or engineers. They never bother about the interests of their son or daughter.
    In my opinion, parents should not force their kids to go to the courses they like They should leave it to the choice of their children. One of my distinct relatives made his son go for an Engineering course. That boy is not interested in those subjects. He failed in all the subjects in the first year. Then discontinued and later on joined B Com and did extremely well and he is in a good position now.
    There may be many other examples like this. A person having an interest in the work he is doing will do the task in a better way and this fact should be kept in mind by all the parents.

    drrao
    always confident

  • #778128
    In my opinion the kid should be allowed to take their own decision because commerce is no way lesser than science. There are way more opportunities in commerce field in a country like India. Science has more scope outside of India where there are more opportunities. In India you can easily notice people studying from IITs and then going for MBA, which is more related to commerce field than science. It all comes down to the salary package for Indian students. Studying commerce from a top college will be a better option if your child is not interested in science.

    If you force your child to opt for science, it may not work because science at 10+2 level is not easy at all. A child must have some sort of interest in science to study those heavy syllabus of physics, chemistry, and maths at 10+2 level. I have seen people struggle and then changed their stream to commerce because they weren't able to cope up with science. Hence, it will be better to tell your child to focus on commerce and make sure he/she gets admission in a good college after school because that's the only way they can become successful.

    Humble yourself or life will do it for you!

  • #778136
    I understand your situation about your kids' career choices after their 10th-grade exams. It's a big deal, isn't it?

    So, you're thinking your son should go for science because you're an engineer. But he's leaning towards commerce, and that's got you worried about his future, right? Here's what I think: Passion is great, but money matters too. It's important to balance what he loves with what can help him succeed in the long run. Maybe encourage him to explore both options and see which one fits him best. Finding that balance is key. Hope your son finds his path!

    Regards,

    Sunil

  • #778154
    Many parents are nowadays insisting their ambitions on their kids. It is not correct. But in some cases the parents as they unable to fulfill their ambitions in their life, they are insisting. This may be correct according to them but practically is not correct. But they can friendly tell their children about their ambitions which may sometimes makes fruitful rather than forcing. Because as a child they might have some ambition in their minds which can only be understood by the parents when they talk with the children friendly or amicably.
    My strong view is nowadays many parents do not talk with their children freely and treating their children as separate one amidst their busy schedule of works.


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