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    Points:5

      

    Today's generation is more friendly in nature but....

    There is a clear generation gap, even the 'Pan pasand masala' advertisement confirms the same. Today's boys and girls are more friendly in nature within their limits and peripheries. Previously, it was not like that and there was clear barrier between the boys and girls till their Graduation atleast where you are bound to be monitored by the parents. At University level, the atmosphere was different. Now parents too give freedom to their college going children and the pressure of studies and competition in every field/branch of study might not be permitting them for unwarrented chit-chats.

    But various studies and the general observation reveal that present generation appears to have lost their feelings with the other sex may be due to paucity of time, hectic work schedule, usual mixing with each other or regular common interactions. This has an impact on the family life resulting un-necessary disputes.
    Is it so? What's your take on this?
  • #778584

    Points:5
    There are perceptible changes in the society in various matters including the aspects that the author has elaborated. Some of the reasons that I can attribute to these changes are - modernisation in our lives, affect of western culture on us, influence of stardom and fashion on the lives of young people, old generation also feeling happy about it in general though they have certain reservations, freedom to mix with others especially opposite sex, disintegration of joint families in nuclear ones, and other such developments and changes that are happening not only in our country but all over the world.
    Coming to the core point of feelings for the opposite sex raised in the above post my thinking is that earlier we imagined more and saw less. We were more poetic and less practical. Opposite sex was always considered a polite and soft flower and poets presented it in various feelings of love. But in reality it is different and that our youngsters came to know after mixing only that there is nothing like that and in fact in some workplaces the boys have to compete with girls as girls in general are more serious about the job and duties and can progress ahead and same boy might had to work under that girl and would not be able to tolerate her tough avatar.
    Knowledge is power.

  • #778595

    Points:5
    These days our lives are more mechanical. No feelings and no impacts. Another point is life has become a running race. We may lose the race if we stop running and start thinking about other issues. Nobody wants to lose the race. Once ladies struggle equally like gents, all feelings are lost and only competition in every aspect is seen. When both genders mix and move together they lose their feelings and they will not have any liking towards the other sex. Today we are seeing many divorce cases. There are many love failures. The basic reason in many cases is not having sympathy or understanding between the couples.
    Family relations are also diminishing and money is playing a very important role. Even parents never give sufficient time to their children and children do not enjoy the affection of their parents. The relations are more commercial than affectionate.
    drrao
    always confident

  • #778624

    Points:5
    Earlier the girls were not so much career concious. After some education they got married and took up the duties of the housewife and did that sincerely. For all financial matters they depended on their husbands and the relationship remained intact on those premises and there were a few cases of divorce or conflicts.
    But this all changed quickly as more women came out of the four walls of the house and started working almost equivalent to the boys in many areas. This not only brought the financial freedom but also inculcated a feeling of confidence in many matters where earlier males dominated the scene.
    Today's girls are exposed to the competitive environment and will not go for someone just based on sentiments and emotions. They will first ascertain the integrity and faithfulness of a person before initiating any relationship. Even after relationship if that does not turn as per their expectations, they would split quickly.
    Thoughts exchanged is knowledge gained.

  • #778646

    Points:4
    I also feel that the financial independence of a woman is an important aspect because earlier only males had the privilege of leaving the partner but now women can also decide so if they are not happy in a particular relationship. As an example, in highly developed and ultra modern western societies, the cases of divorce are quite high.
    Middle class girls searching for or wooing a rich husband is a common initiative in those countries.
    We are also following the same route as increased education and job opportunities for women are making them independent bread earner.
    The soft feelings and flawless love that existed once between the pair is slowly giving way to businesslike relationships.
    Knowledge is power.

  • #778654

    Points:5
    As far as my knowledge goes a friendship is a relationship that may continue or may not continue for a long period. But some relations we will get by our birth and some will happen during our lives and they are called relatives and relationships in family members should be permanent. We should aim to protect them and some adjustments are required. We can adjust only when we have emotions. Today we are bringing up our children without such emotions I feel. They see every thing in the same way. They never know the difference between a friend and a family member. That is causing the real problem. I know some girls who help others and work for NGOs. But they never feel that family members should also be kept happy and there should be some soft corner towards family members also. This is most unfortunate.
    drrao
    always confident

  • #778661

      

    Points:2
    I'm a little confused. "This has an impact on the family life resulting in unnecessary disputes." - what does this mean? How is it affecting family life and what type of disputes are you referring to?
    When you make a commitment, you create hope. When you keep a commitment you create trust! ~ John C. Maxwell

  • #778665

      

    Points:3
    @ ME Vandana,
    Para (2) should be read as whole and no confusion would be there. I have come across three young couple in my relatives and friends where it was reported that the bond of marriage 'feelings' not existing. Parents also support their children's stand and didn't try for a compromise formula. I don't want to dwell on the subject more but it is my general observation because of the present trend existing the youngsters today.
    Regards,
    Jagdish

  • #778667

    Points:3
    I think people don't carry relationships for long these days. Once the relationship goes sour, people separate because staying in such relationships can cause mental health issues. There is nothing wrong in it because everyone is busy nowadays with their hectic workloads and if family drama continues daily they won't be able to concentrate on their work. In the end mental peace is more important than carrying the burden of spoilt long term relationships.
    Humble yourself or life will do it for you!

  • #778679

    Points:5
    Not only in academic institutions, but everywhere, male-female relationships have experienced a sea change. Let me narrate an incident which very recently happened on the metro rail in Delhi.

    In a very crowded general compartment (not a compartment reserved for ladies) of Delhi metro, the seats reserved for ladies in the general compartment were full. All the other seats were also occupied. At that time, a not-so-old lady requested a young man to give her the seat. The young man flatly refused to vacate the seat and the lady immediately sat on the lap of the young man saying: "Mujhe kuch faraq nahi parta."

    This incident proves that male-female relationship has changed. The young man did not vacate the seat even when the lady requested him. The lady also sat on the lap of the young man in front of others.

    No other lady passenger, as usual, vacated her seat for that particularlady. Ultimately, another man vacated his seat to save the situation.
    Billo Rani kahon to abhi jaan de doon: Oh dear Billo, if you ask, I will give my life

  • #778725

    Points:4
    I think the relationships today are becoming more business like than emotion based. Many girls are enquiring their long time fiancee about living in a separate house after marriage. The girl's parents are also encouraging her for that and are even ready to part finance or finance for the new house. This is more perceptible where only girls are there and no boy in the family. If the girl is doing job then she would enquire about the availability of the servant in boy's house. So, in such a situation where is the place for emotions and sentiments?
    After marriage if the expectations are not met then conflicts start piling up and in many instances they lead to separation. The number of cases in family courts are on rise.
    Thoughts exchanged is knowledge gained.

  • #778739

      

    Points:5
    #778725 @Neeru Bhatt,
    There you are. The problem persists because a daughter-in-law can't be a daughter just like the mother-in-law won't become a mother to her daughter-in-law. The age old struggle continues between the two while the parents of the girl, as you rightly said, involve the financial matters and do support their daughter. This is one of the main reasons for the conflicts in two families. The parental attitude should change but the core point for lack of 'feelings' should be seen in different dimensions :
    - Work from home concept continuing even after Corona because of the flexible IT environment
    - The mixing of boys and girls in college environment more easier than the older times
    - parental care and observation with a lenient approach
    - Financial freedom
    are the major concerns to be looked into.
    Regards,
    Jagdish

  • #778758

    Points:5
    By reading the title,I thought the discussion may be in general , but on reading full thread I find the discussion centers on one point only.
    The author states "present generation appears to have lost their feelings with the other sex may be due to paucity of time, hectic work schedule, usual mixing with each other or regular common interactions. ".

    But I feel it is because of over exposure. It follows the proverbial pattern 'Familiarity breeds contempt".
    Anything easily available is not considered valuable. Today cross gender friendship and companionship is more easily happening than in previous generations. So it is not considered as much valuable or to be treasured. There are many alternatives also available.

    In my opinion all these lead to the situation" that present generation appears to have lost their feelings with the other sex" and that "that the bond of marriage 'feelings' not existing"

  • #778798

    Points:5
    I would like to make it clear that the present generation is more secluded with work pressure, spending time on social media (the real culprit) most of the time. The charm of bonding with the other sex is missing unlike the previous generations were closely connected with their partners though they underwent more hardships than the present generation. The current generation gets easily married, easily divorced, and easily trapped into illegal affairs, transitioning to Western culture in all aspects. Regarding the statement, "Today's generation is more friendly in nature," they just want to be friends as long as they can and they don't want to get caught in any social commitment (like marriage) as such or prolong as much as they can.

    On a lighter note, I would rather say (maybe a subject to do research) that the oxytocin effect (biological hormone of love, emotions, bonding) would cause this unhealthy relationship. It would be apt to have supplements to enhance this hormone as hilariously quoted, "Marriage is like supplements, we supplement each other's minimum daily requirements."

  • #778802

    Points:4
    While being a student of a primary school, I have read a lot about strengthening the relationship between us and our close relatives. Theoretically, it seems to be easy but the same seems to be equally difficult to implement.
    Take the case of the Husband and Wife where each of them is doing their jobs honestly. The husbands are bussy in their workplace doing their jobs for an extended hours whereas the wives are bussy with their own activities raising their kids with the adequate care apart from doing the jobs of the homemakers. Both the partners are doing their jobs mechanically - not appreciating to each other. Though both are doing their jobs with dedication but there is not warmth of the relationship between the two. This ultimately causes the breakdown of smooth relationships.


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