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20 Apr 2024 12:27

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How can shy persons change their attitude to others?

Some people are by nature shy. They do not mix in society and do not extend friendship to others easily. Some of them are introvert also. Many children are also like that and are not open to others. They only confide with their parents. Many of these children remain like that even after growing up.
Experts believe that being shy is not a healthy trait. One should mix with others and communicate. That is necessary for a balanced personality development.
How can shy persons change their habits and start mixing with others and exchange one's feelings and ideas with others which is necessary for improvement in their behaviour and social attitudes? What are your views?

#778599

20 Apr 2024 16:28

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Yes. I have seen some such persons. One of my colleagues was very hesitant to talk in a gathering. He was never expressing himself even when it was required. One day we were in a meeting, I announced his name and asked him to talk. Initially, he was a little worried and slowly started and spoke for about 5 minutes. Like this, I forced him to talk in two or three gatherings. I have sent him on a training programme to improve his communication skills. Later he became a perfect orator.
Encouraging shy people, forcing them to behave differently and imparting them the required training will make a lot of changes in personality development. There are many personality development programmes for young people and one should attend such courses based on their needs.

drrao
always confident

#778607

20 Apr 2024 20:12

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Habits and character(characteristics) come from various causative factors. Generally it is from the upbringing and environment in the family, in the immediate neighbourhood and local society. It may also be a result of copying and following immediate family members, and even genetic reasons too.

But, by and large even the children who start off as shy also become more social and mingling by gradual exposure and mixing with more children and people.

I do not see shyness per se as a negative trait. It also acts as a firewall protecting us from pitfalls and damages arising from too enthusiastic and non-cautious attitudes and actions.

Only very less people continue to be severely shy and introvert. They may need remedial measures by giving them exposures and confidence. Some rare cases may need even psychological by counselling or therapeutic support.

I am afraid that some other withdrawal characteristics-not necessarily shyness- may be showing up in the new generation people who are secluded in small IT cabins during work and in seclusion with their laptops, smartphones and headphones. This needs attention of the society.

#778610

20 Apr 2024 20:58

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Shyness is a particular trait in some people and it cannot be easily changed unless there are changes in the environment of the person. A shift in job can also help sometimes.
There are people who remain shy in their family and with near and dear but once they go out in a different environment they pick up new friends and slowly change their ways. At the same time there are few who remain shy everywhere.
Family members, friends, and colleagues have also a role to play and if they treat such persons politely and carefully then slowly the person can open up with others.

Thoughts exchanged is knowledge gained.

#778618

21 Apr 2024 06:37

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Let me also share my views on this topic. I was also a shy student and was not mixing with the students. Whenever I interacted with them and if some student joked or said something funny I felt hurt as if he offended me. Today I realise it was not their fault and I simply took things in such a way. Anyway that personality disorder, I would say, further alienated me from others. I took refuge in books of all sorts and enjoyed my time in them.
The problem arose when during my UG course I was asked to present a short lecture on some topic and while all the students were excited about it and preparing the same I was in a fix as how I am going to address the gathering. Anyway, inspite of my knowledge and learnings so far acquired, my lecture was a flop and I was much discouraged by that.
Later, my professors helped me and motivated and encouraged for coming out of my shyness which was becoming a barrier for my career growth and I slowly came out of that dreadful condition but it took quite long.
So shyness is not a good thing and parents should monitor their children and try to remove it during the growing up period itself so that it does not become detrimental to the child's growth.
Shyness is a psychological condition and more early it is treated better it is.

Knowledge is power.

#778625

21 Apr 2024 09:54

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Shyness is not a long standing personal trait and this variant would be there in every individual which is dynamic. It gets changed with time and situations. When you have to cry or laugh, shyness doesn't come into picture. It doesn't mean that a shy boy can't become angry when his ego hurts.

Regards,
Jagdish

#778632

21 Apr 2024 13:20

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I was and still am a very shy person. I can't simply overcome my shyness. It is increasing proportionately with my laziness and with my advancing age.

(a) Those who have forgotten Noakhali, how can they protest Sandeshkhali?
(b) Have no fear of perfection - you'll never reach it. ---------- Salvador Dali

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