The hi and bye culture is the root cause of all unhappiness
There is a big talk about 2K kids or 3K kids and so on. Whatever ramifications such discussions may have, the fact of life is that anyone who is older than just ten years, is accustomed to what is now called as "hai and bye" culture. There is a big disconnect between the old and the new. By the old, one means anyone born between 1960 and 1970 on the one hand, and those born after the dawn of this new century.The so-called young do not have any attachment to anything. More so, family relationships or even their own marriage. The families that exercise a good amount of parental control, with the grandparents chipping in with some moral lessons, seems to be far better than those without such control.
The key is communication. Since everything is based on instant gratification of the fast food kind, they tend to "express" themselves, only to overdo it. For example, in a city like Bangalore, girls consider any boy who does not booze, as 'old-fashioned". They themselves booze and do not agree to even get married to a non-drinker, even in Tamil Brahmin families.
Every rule is being broken with impunity. Divorces are so common, only because there is hardly any communication. Even when they know that there is something wrong, they are not willing to correct themselves.
Where are we going? The parents are totally losing control. In the name of Westernization. are we making an entire generation cut off from whatever was ( and still is) good about our culture -- respect for elders, some amount of caring and sharing, dinner time talk and so on.
Where are we going, really?