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    If others are happy we can be very happy too

    A group of friends got to chat and I was one of them. Most in the group were above 60 and had very good knowledge in their domains. And most had very ordinary childhood experiences in middle class families and today, each one has enough to go to the costliest five star hotels for dinner at least once in a month.

    And each of them had a social life that extended to doing something extraordinary. For instance, one has a big group of fairly rich people who have formed a trust for environmental protection. They also co-ordinate with Government agencies. Another volunteers for an NGO, offering free coaching in Mathematics and Science.

    And as our conversations took a turn to enjoy some jokes, a few had lovely moments of happiness that were clear from their interactions and experiences with others.

    Happiness, it became very obvious, was there for the asking. Since many are dispersed in different parts of Chennai metropolis and two other cities, it is not possible to meet so often. But since many had come with their wives, sharing of experiences turned out to be so enjoyable. At least once in six months, we all agreed that we would meet again.

    And it became very loud and clear -- a second career after 60 can be very nice, if only we create spaces for happiness. Often, by doing some constructive work, where we can not only engage ourselves but do something very useful for the society.

    Happiness does not mean just having tonnes of money, though money is very important. But money alone will never bring happiness to anyone.
  • #779178
    There is no doubt that sharing time with like minded people, friends, family, classmates, etc brings happy moments in our lives.
    When people start their career then they are busy in earning money as well as taking their careers to the envisaged heights and it is obvious that they would be busy in attaining those ambitious targets. They will not get enough leisure time to connect with their friends for such get to gather. It is only after their retirement from active life that they can afford such luxury of having periodical meets to have fun and frolic.
    It is not possible to generate happiness alone though some spiritual Gurus claim for that. Human beings are social and gregarious by nature and they enjoy company like anything.
    When we want to make others happy then sometimes we have to do some sacrifice also for that and we should be ready for that if we are really interested in exchanging happiness with others.

    Thoughts exchanged is knowledge gained.

  • #779188
    I agree with the author that happiness has no relation to the money you have. Happiness is a state of mind and it comes with contentment. A wealthy person will feel sorry thinking that he could not purchase a Benz car and only has to manage with Scoda. A poor who filled his stomach with food tonight after two days may be feeling very happy for having sufficient food and trying to sleep under a tree in the open air.
    As you grow rich your wants will increase and to fulfil your wants you have to struggle hard which will make you unhappy. Once you have all your needs and you have no wants specially, you can be happy. When we share our happiness with others it will get multiplied as they also feel happy. Some people will be always unsatisfied only. Such people will never be happy and speaking to such people makes others also unhappy. Such people always talk about problems only and they think in this world they are the only people having such problems.

    drrao
    always confident

  • #779205
    What author has mentioned fully suits to the retired people who had acquaintances with one another in the past.
    For happiness like-minded good company is required. When people have good friendship and affinity then company becomes more enjoyable.
    Generally, people having company of old colleague, school/college time classmates, residents of their housing societies, etc enjoy it much due to familiarity and frankness allowed in the group.
    For happiness informal groups and activities are required and above types of groups satisfy that.
    After one's retirement from active service life forming such groups and having a periodic get to gather is a great way to relax and enjoy.

    Knowledge is power.


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