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    When was the last time your ego overpowered you?

    As human beings, we all have a secret self that we totally hide from others. For, what we think about someone or some situation is extremely difficult for others to understand. A small portion of this will be visible to the external world whenever we ventilate our emotions and there is a set pattern to our behaviour. For instance, some people around us remain very cool most times. We do understand that there is a particular chemistry that works within the individual. Ditto for others at the other end of the spectrum who are branded short-tempered.

    And alongside such human specific behavioral traits, there is a big ego that is always centered around something we are good at. If someone tries to outsmart us or falsely put on a show, we raise our ego and there is an outburst.

    I have done it very successfully. The competitor is normally completely out as others would take sides and put down that fellow, particularly when the person is not so strong on his views and ideas. This happened when a person with inadequate knowledge tried to chide me with my understanding of a Strategic Management topic. I had read extensively about the practical opinion and had my own Indian examples with figures and facts. Others in the group totally sided with me. It was my ego at play. It was not my intention to outsmart him. But he did try to defame me and my ego was touched.

    It was a very rare occasion, but it happened. After four days, that person, a teacher in a B School apologized for his behavior and the story ended there.

    Have you had a similar occasion in your life?
  • #779569
    When the ego of a person is touched or hurt then that person takes it seriously and his whole personality starts fighting against the entity which caused that offence on him. It is a natural human behaviour. We all have that experience sometime or other in our lives.

    Once, one of my colleagues while going through some technical discussions told me a technical thing which I did not agree because I read something different about that a few days back in connection with some urgent work. My colleague was sure that it was a rare thing and I would not be knowing about that. When I persistently negated him then he was alarmed and asked me from where I got that information. I told him that I referred some technical manual a few days back. He still did not believe me and asked me to show that. Next day I went to the departmental library and got that manual and showed him and he kept quite. My ego was satisfied.
    When we know something better or rare that others do not know then if some person challenges us, our ego would not be satisfied till we make that person understand that we know the things in a better way. It is true of many other things and many other situations where ego of a person is challenged.

    Knowledge is power.

  • #779576
    Everybody will have some ego. But that ego should not be used to spoil others. But if we keep silent when somebody is trying to show off without proper knowledge, we will be making a mistake. It is not that our ego hurts. It will be injustice to the subject and people will be learning wrong things. So we should make them realize the issue correctly.

    It happened many times in my career. When I was working as an R&D in charge, a consultant was given a work. I was working with him jointly. He brought up one process which was not getting the desired results. I was trying to tell him about the faults in his suggestion process, but he was not listening. So I asked for a meeting of all the members concerned and I asked the consultant to make a presentation. Then I started interfering wherever there were mistakes and I got the support of the other members in the meeting. Then I mentioned that we should modify the procedure accordingly and then the modified process worked very well. His ego got hurt. But my point was proved.

    drrao
    always confident


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