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    Points:5

    We should be a role model for our children

    Nowadays many people complain that their children do not listen to them and have become too indisciplined. The children demand so many things which are sometimes beyond the capacity of the parents and if not met they make it a big issue.
    Some parents complain that children do not understand the value of money and waste it. So, there are many such complaints made by the parents. Now the question is who is responsible for that. There must be something wrong in the bringing up of the children that they are behaving like that. If we properly take care of those aspects then they would not be behaving like that. We have to show them by doing what we want them to do. If we are not working but asking them to do a thing they would feel offended.
    My view is we should try to become a role model for our children and they would be what they see us doing. Do you agree?
  • #780444

    Points:2
    Yes, we should be role model to our child/children. That is the main principle of parenting thesis or hypothesis. But very few of us can be role models for children. We expect our children to do something, which we ourselves never do. This ultimately causes conflict between parents and children.
    Kabhi un mad-bhari ankhon se piya tha ek jaam, aajtak hosh nehi, hosh nehi, hosh nehi—Jigar Moradabadi ("Once I drank a cup from those drunken eyes; till now I haven't regained my senses!")

  • #780446

    Points:4
    The children copy the manners and actions of their parents. We must let them apprise why a similar action has been taken from their end. This will help them to understand the efforts of their parents for the different initiatives.
    However, we remain so bussy in our activity that we neglect such a simple task in convincing them regarding the right approach. They want their parents must behave as role model at every step. Hence an honest approach of parents will bring a feeling of closeness to them.

  • #780447

    Points:4
    The main problem is that the parents do not do what they preach to their children and naturally children will be baffled by these double standards. If we want that children should be disciplined and listen to us and follow our instructions then we will have to first become disciplined ourselves and that is not an easy proposition. If we watch movies upto 1 AM in the night and ask children to go to bed by 10 PM what would they think of us?
    Until we put forward the examples of discipline and work how can we expect them to learn those things.
    Knowledge is power.

  • #780448

    Points:5
    It is a well known fact that parents are the initial teachers of their children. All parents need not teach their children. Children will learn by seeing their parents. That is why we always hear that a wife and husband should quarrel with each other in the presence of their children. These days there are no combined families. So children will have a chance to observe closely their parents only. When combined families were there children used to have many cleders around them. So they were having proximity to watch them also closely. But now that chance is not there.
    So parents should understand this fact and conduct themselves in such a way that their children will learn all good habits only and become responsible citizens of the country. Family culture will have a lot of impact on the children. If my son observes that I am not taking care of my father, tomorrow when need comes he may also behave in the same manner with me. One should keep this always in their minds.
    drrao
    always confident

  • #780457

    Points:4
    There are too many distractions these days for children. Even if we want to shape our kids according to our liking they might not listen to us. It all depends on the education and the environment offered to the child. Internet is a big distraction and it has already destroyed many young lives in this country. Although internet has made a positive impact too but everyone doesn't know how to effectively use internet for their benefit. Social media and other factors are overpowering the family values. Parents can become the role model for their children but are the children willing to follow the footsteps of their parents? I don't think parents would ever want their children to get negatively influenced by their acts and they usually behave as a good role model.
    Thanks and regards.

  • #780475

    Points:5
    Super posting and is a need of the hour also. Children are forthcoming rulers as told by our Mr. K. Kamaraj, Ex-Chief Minister of Tamil Nadu. Laying a good basement for the children is not in the hands of parents only but also the persons living around/with the children. That is what our elders are telling us to speak and do good to others always. Avoiding unnecessary/filthy/bad words is always good to us especially in front of the children. In many houses we can see the children just following or acting the mannerisms of the parents and other relatives in the house and if the mannerisms of them are good, the same of the children also good.
    My father used to tell and do a practice of keeping the articles in their place where from we take. This we all brothers and other children are following even today. This habit helped us a lot also. One day power went off in our house. My brother's daughter who is only 13 years old correctly went in the dark to the shelf and take the candle and match box for bringing light to that room, further, she kept the matchbox immediately in that place again after lighting the candle.
    My grandfather advised us a lot during our childhood whether it was necessary on those days or not. But they are very helpful to us. Our grandfather, father and house persons do spend money for needy items and without lavishness. This makes us to follow the same in today also. We are thinking before spending money.

  • #780477

    Points:5
    I would like to add that for many parents it is not possible to become a role model because they have some bad habits formed long back and changing them and showcasing something good and different to their kids is not possible. So the challenge is for the parents to change their ways which requires a lot of self control and discipline.
    That is also the reason why parents send their children to tutor or coaching as they cannot spare time or not willing to teach the children themselves.
    So if the parents have such limitations and cannot sacrifice or adjust in such ways for the betterment of their children then what happens when children simply copy the ways of their parents?
    So becoming a role model is something that everyone would like but one has to do sincere and appropriate efforts for that.
    Knowledge is power.


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