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    Points:4

    How to deal with such people?

    Some people have a habit of interfering with the personal or related matters of other people and it is irritating and annoying at times. These people also give a lot of suggestions and unsolicited advices whether someone is asking for it or not.
    Isn't it a bad habit? Due to this habit these people often lose some of their friends and they also do not get popularity and respect in the society.
    Have you come across such people? How to handle them? What are your experiences?
  • #780812

    Points:5
    Unsolicited suggestions are generally not honoured. So I never give suggestions to any person unless otherwise they ask. Even to my family members especially to my two grown-up sons I will not give any suggestion unless otherwise they ask. If I feel it is very important, I may warn them to rethink and then decide.
    If somebody gives me some suggestions based on the knowledge of the other person and based on the relevance of the suggestion I may take it or may not consider it. As mentioned by the author there may be some people who always interfere and come out with suggestions. It is better to hear what they are telling and if we feel that suggestion is not OK we can ignore it.
    There is a poem in Telugu which means one should hear all the people but think thoroughly about the suggestion given and then only adopt. Never go blindly with the suggestions given by others.
    drrao
    always confident

  • #780822

    Points:4
    There are some people who have the habit of giving unsolicited suggestions or advices. It is better to remain away from such people because they will simply create confusion in our minds. Another thing is we do not know what is the hidden agenda in their minds under which they are influencing us about certain things. It is possible that following their advice we act and then due to that action they indirectly get benefitted.
    If we cannot get away from such people then we should simply hear them and keep that in our minds without interacting much with them. Later we can coolly think about that.
    Thoughts exchanged is knowledge gained.

  • #780829

    Points:4
    You can't do anything about it because such people are mostly your neighbours or relatives or even a friend. One can't spoil their relationships for such things and it is better to listen to them, but do what you like. I have many relatives behaving in such manners and they usually do it to show their superiority. They think by giving such advices they are improving their reputation but most of their talks are just plain nonsense. Such characters are usually found everywhere and most people don't take them seriously. Once I had argument with such a person and proved him wrong, but he was so angered as if I had said something wrong. They are usually not good at taking criticism and have quarrels over petty issues. Just listen to them with a smiling face and avoid taking them seriously.
    Humble yourself or life will do it for you!

  • #780837

    Points:4
    Where ever we go, we can see a lot of people who remain interested in offering suggestions though we would not like to hear such advice. Such people are helpless and are not in a position to resist their emotions. Maybe they are suffering from some mental complexes and are helpless to restrain their activities.
    Under such a situation we should take some extra precautions, we would listen to them carefully and identify their intent. With maintaing the good gestureres, it would be better for us to keep mum and listen to them seriously. Lastly, we should utter our expression assuring the party that wherever necessary, his suggestion will be implemented.
    Then we will move forward according to our planning.

  • #780848

    Points:4
    Once such a person gave me an unsolicited suggestion that wasn't needed at all. I smiled at him and told him it was a fantastic idea. Later on when I met him I told him that his idea didn't work and it has caused a big loss. He got shocked by my retaliation and refused that he gave any such idea to me. From this experience I came to know that no matter how good it sounds, never believe on big talks. Bigmouth people usually have nothing but useless ideas. They just blabber and have no idea what they are saying. So, stay away from such people and never ever try to implement their ideas.
    Thanks and regards.

  • #780863

      

    Points:4
    Nowadays the ones constantly spitting out grand advice and suggestions are sprouting everywhere. The minute somebody becomes popular on social media, they get labelled as an influencer and naive people soak in whatever they post.

    I think the best way to deal with people who give unsolicited advice is to politely point out that you do not want the advice or just listen and not react at all. That said, I don't think you should necessarily be dismissive. Sometimes you will get some gems that would genuinely benefit you. So it is best to first understand the difference between good suggestions and advice and "interference".
    When you make a commitment, you create hope. When you keep a commitment you create trust! ~ John C. Maxwell

  • #780864

      

    Points:3
    Incidentally, I think all of us, including me, at some point or other are guilty of this, of giving unsolicited advice. Don't you recall having done so often? Yes, it is irritating in the same way as we get irritated when someone else does it, but we still persist! I think it is just part of human behaviour and we sometimes end up hurting the other person and creating a crack in the relationship.
    When you make a commitment, you create hope. When you keep a commitment you create trust! ~ John C. Maxwell


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