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    Points:5

    Is it a weakness if men cry?

    Usually, if boys and men cry, they are considered weak personalities. Why is it so? Aren't they human beings? If yes, what's the harm in expressing their emotions, be they happy or sad? After all, they are one part of God's supreme creations and the other part is the creation of the female human race.

    People consider 'crying' a weakness. While males are known as the strongest, their crying trait marks them as weak. Let's do a fact-check: what to say about the Indian cricketers who recently won the 20/20 World Cup? They cried their heart out, and we all witnessed either in person or on television. Are those men weak? No, never.

    In my opinion, injury is a part and parcel of sports. Any time, anything can happen. Men or women, both as players, give their best in sports for the team or country they represent. Thus, it can be tears of joy or grief, according to the result of the match. The 20/20 World Cup winners were crying profusely. So, should they be termed as winners or losers? No, it's pure emotion flowing out from their eyes and expressing any emotion is the prerogative of an individual, irrespective of one's gender. The male cricketers reflected their mental strength and skill through their cricketing abilities, and the winning outcome unleashed their soft and emotional traits. So, crying is not a weapon of the weaker section but expresses a sentimental attachment. What do you say?
  • #780855

    Points:5
    I agree with the author. Shedding tears is not a weakness. It is a way of expressing our emotions. Sometimes when we are happy also tears may out from our eyes. I never accept that crying by men is abnormal. Each person will have a threshold point. It may be either joy or grief when it goes beyond a certain limit, it is normal to cry.
    Our cricket team won all matches in the T20 World Cup. All the players expressed their happiness. But we never saw tears in the eyes of the players. But when the team won the finals almost all the players cried and their eyes were wet with tears. That means their happiness reached that stage where they outburst.
    These threshold energy levels may vary from person to person. It is not gender specific. We see many ladies who are stubborn and never show tears in front of others.
    It is not a weakness if a man cries.
    drrao
    always confident

  • #780856

    Points:5
    I think men don't like to show their tears to anyone and usually hide their soft side from people because there is a stigma attached to such things in our country. Khushi ke aansoo (tears due to happiness) is totally a different thing and there is no shame in it. Everyone knows how much Indian team struggled during the last 10 years and how many finals they lost. The most painful was when Australia thrashed India in the ODI world cup final at Ahmedabad. It was emotional because Indian team was faltering at the last step but this time they won. On the other side even South African players were also crying because they again choked at the last moments. It was a final between two similar teams and India got the better of SA. I felt very bad for South Africans because they were in driving seat with 30 runs of 30 balls with six wickets in hand. I don't know how they lost it because they clearly had the edge. South Africans will never forget it because they are yet to win a world cup.
    Humble yourself or life will do it for you!

  • #780888

    Points:4
    Crying is not a weakness but due to some situation people are forced to cry. It could be emotional matter or overjoy or some other sensitive matter under which one gets such outbursts of tears.
    In our society people generally feel that women often get tears more as compared to men. How much that is correct may be a matter of discussion but softness of character is a common feature and male or female anyone can be soft as it is an individual trait.
    A soft person would get tears more easily as compared to a hard and strong person.
    Knowledge is power.

  • #780893

    Points:4
    Crying is a natural expression in human beings. It is neither the strength nor weakness. When crying is over the person feels relaxed as the emotional energy gets a conduit to go away.
    Every person however tough has some emotions and they are the drivers for bringing tears in a person.
    There is a wrong conception in the minds of people that women are weak and often cry. It is not so. Some women are tough and do not get carried away with the sentiments. On the other hand there are men who are very sentimental and feel bad if someone hurts them. These people are affected by others behaviour.
    Thoughts exchanged is knowledge gained.

  • #780895

    Points:4
    Since time immemorial, we (the males) have been taught directly or indirectly that males should not cry. In case of sorrow, the males should deal with the situation as wisely and early as possible and adjust to the changed circumstances, They have to take care of the family-members, so they should not cry. I have seen most of the males follow this.

    On the other hand, I have seen some males cry after accomplishing a great task or responsibility. The cry after winning the T-20 World Cup comes under this category.
    Billo Rani kahon to abhi jaan de doon: Oh dear Billo, if you ask, I will give my life

  • #780897

    Points:4
    Partha has mentioned a very valid point that during our upbringing we, the men, had been taught not to cry. I agree to that but there is some other factor also to this.

    That factor is the nature in which males and females are developed during the evolutionary processes and the differences between them arose due to their physical strengths and other characteristics distinguishing between them significantly.
    Now those traits or characteristics will be carried to the next generations hereditary and would reflect in the behaviour of the males as well as females.
    So the point is that depending upon the mixture of upbringing and hereditary traits the behaviour of the person would manifest - shedding tears often or occasionally or never.
    Knowledge is power.

  • #780901

    Points:4
    A man should not cry despite the prevalence of heavy sorrows in the surroundings. This was a great lesson taught to us in the family. I agree with Partha Sir on this point. However, all personalities are unique and how far the preachings of the household will be applicable in a given situation cannot be ruled out.
    We do have different ways of analysis and in the same situation, people of the same family would act differently depending upon the prevailing situation.
    Tears will roll down not only in the state of sorrows but it might happen even in the state of joy, which we might witness of any candidate showing their excellent performance in a competitive examination and his face is lashed with tears.

  • #780904

    Points:4
    I remember a situation which I underwent during a facilitation for my father in our native place. My father belongs to a lower-middle-class family. In that village, many of our relatives are also staying. They are all rich and they used to comment unnecessarily about my father as ours is a big family. My father is a poet. A cultural organisation in that village facilitated him and I was asked to say a few words. I was very happy as in the same village where some people criticised him, he was getting facilitated. I expressed this happiness while telling the same and I became emotional and tears came out of my eyes. The organisers appreciated the concern I have for my father. As mentioned by Parths the tears came out of my eyes are due to happiness.
    drrao
    always confident

  • #780915

    Points:3
    Men normally do not cry out on any situation but once he cry means his level must be at the intolerable one. I went to friend's house to attend the death funeral of his wife. At the entrance his relatives told me that he is sitting by the side staring his wife 's body without crying or talking and they feared. Once I entered inside and on seeing me he bursted into huge cry.


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