Friends turn foe after getting benefits from us
Life is very strange. Ironical too.We feel things are in our control. Not at all. Even some seemingly simple and good deeds bring opposite results. Quite against the natural formulae for good behaviour and good living.
I am sure many of you would have similar experiences and so may agree with me.
It is natural human feeling of compassion, empathy and/or sympathy t help some one in distress. Especially when they are our friends or relatives. But ironically many such people simply turn our adversaries since then. They may even go to the extent of spreading wrong gossip about us and even malice. Many vulnerable people may fall victims to such malicious gossip because the gossipers were our friends or relatives earlier.
Once we sourced some funds for a particular purpose. But the next morning we received a distress phone call from a relative long distance. They need urgent money for remitting to college for their son. Next day was last date and they called us because they tried ,but could not get the amount from anyone else, we are the last resort. As it was for the study and future of a teenager , we did not think twice,; sent the needed money to them by the fastest means. They profusely thanked us and promised to return as early as possible. That was the last time we heard from them. It is now more than fifteen years. The mother (who requested the amount) is no more, the boy (we knew from other sources has married and is not keeping touch with any relatives), Till date we did not ask for he return of money and they also never talked to us. But we came to know in between that they were telling others about how we did not help them even when we were ding well. Somehow we kept quiet and never bothered to explain to anyone, because people knew us well.
In another incident, I had to put my opinion and exercise my choice which was against the wish of someone was co-working with for a social cause in a community association. Though I used to support and stand with him in almost all matters, I could not agree to this particular matter as I could foresee certain future problems. So I differed and convinced others too. This infuriated that particular person and I was surprised that he even threw tantrums and shouting and fretting. But I kept my cool and firm. He stopped talking to me for a few days.
But due to common necessity and with other balanced persons around, he had to come back and I behaved as if nothing happened. But I am sure he keeps it still in his mind as a defeat and ego problem.
So even a friend or relative of long time can also turn to be an enemy even when we do some favour or when we try to stand on our own.
I would like to se views of the members and their experiences in this regard.