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    self confidence development.

    How to develop self confidence? I am doing everything on optimistic approach?
    But it fails in some cases. So I am fed up with lack of self confidence?
    Solution please?
  • #62277
    Confidence is essential for success. Over-confidence & under confidence will create problems. Over-confidence may lead to failures or surprises & bad performance. Always remember the days when you have performed your best whether its as a student in college exams, as a sports person in some match or any other aspect of life. Always say that the glass is half-filled rather than saying that the glass is half-empty. Concentrate on your goals & don't bother about what others will say.

  • #62309
    Self-confidence is extremely important in almost every aspect of our life, yet so many people like you are struggling to find it. Also people who lack self-confidence can find it difficult to get out of it and become successful.

    The good news is that self-confidence really can be learned and built on. And it’s well-worth the effort!

    Your level of self-confidence can show in many ways: Your behavior, your body language, how you speak, what you say, and so on. Look at the following comparisons of common confident behavior with behavior associated with low self-confidence.

    If you ask me about how to acheive that, I can say that first look at what you’ve already achieved, think about your strengths, think about what's important to you, and where you want to go. You have to first start managing your mind and then commit yourself to success, but at the sane time build the knowledge you need to succeed, focus on the basics and set small goals, and achieve them.

    And above all "Be Positive", even if you don't feel positive. Avoid self-pity, or the pity and sympathy of others. Never allow others to make you feel inferior--they can only do so if you let them. If you continue to loathe and belittle yourself, others are going to do and believe likewise. Instead, speak positively about yourself, about your future, and about your progress. Do not be afraid to project your strengths and qualities to others. By doing so, you reinforce those ideas in your mind and encourage your growth in a positive direction.

  • #62312
    confidence comes from knowledge . and hardwork
    successful people are not extraordinary people but who believe in themselves hence do not show yourself too short if you beleive imn what you do confidence follows .

  • #62317
    Self confidence is an important asset for our mental and physical health and a necessity for a good life. Building self confidence is not something that comes in a single day, falling from the sky, or a lottery that a lucky person wins. Self confidence is build and maintained day by day with simple and everyday things happening with you n your day to day life.

    Have you ever asked yourself these questions: Who am I? What is that I know and learnt in life? What can I do? Do I deserve what I am? How can I do that? Those who can answer these questions in a positive way, they stand on a strong foundation. Those who don’t then they lack one of the most important, priceless assets in their lives i.e self-confidence. Self-confidence is not a gift of nature to some individual but it is something that we all deserve to search for and nonetheless we can own it for ourselves.
    Refer this article for further guidance

    Indian's Diary


  • #62681
    You have to take your failures in stride. Learn from your failures. You will be able to find out what you did wrong which lead to failure. In next action don't make that mistake. Confidence comes with knowledge. Trying more will give you more learning and success. Once you get success you will automatically get confidence in self. Make friends with successful people and they are likely to share their secrets with you.

  • #62969
    HI, As many of our friends said self-confidence is very important for ones success in life. Life is full of duals-i.e happiness and sorrow, success and failure, pleasure and paid. You should be prepared to face whatever comes in life and learn from your experiences good or bad . Every experience is like our guests ,they come unexpected and some brings cheer with them and some presents pains. We should be prepared to accept both in the same way . Above all you should have confidence in God. Believe that He will guide you in every small things that you do .

  • #63465
    Dear there are 10 things to do to improve self confidence.
    These things work guaranteed.
    1. Dress Sharp
    Although clothes don’t make the man, they certainly affect the way he feels about himself. No one is more conscious of your physical appearance than you are. When you don’t look good, it changes the way you carry yourself and interact with other people. Use this to your advantage by taking care of your personal appearance. In most cases, significant improvements can be made by bathing and shaving frequently, wearing clean clothes, and being cognizant of the latest styles.
    This doesn’t mean you need to spend a lot on clothes. One great rule to follow is “spend twice as much, buy half as much”. Rather than buying a bunch of cheap clothes, buy half as many select, high quality items. In long run this decreases spending because expensive clothes wear out less easily and stay in style longer than cheap clothes. Buying less also helps reduce the clutter in your closet.
    2. Walk Faster
    One of the easiest ways to tell how a person feels about herself is to examine her walk. Is it slow? tired? painful? Or is it energetic and purposeful? People with confidence walk quickly. They have places to go, people to see, and important work to do. Even if you aren’t in a hurry, you can increase your self confidence by putting some pep in your step. Walking 25% faster will make to you look and feel more important.

    3. Good Posture
    Similarly, the way a person carries herself tells a story. People with slumped shoulders and lethargic movements display a lack of self confidence. They aren’t enthusiastic about what they’re doing and they don’t consider themselves important. By practicing good posture, you’ll automatically feel more confident. Stand up straight, keep your head up, and make eye contact. You’ll make a positive impression on others and instantly feel more alert and empowered.
    4. Personal Commercial
    One of the best ways to build confidence is listening to a motivational speech. Unfortunately, opportunities to listen to a great speaker are few and far between. You can fill this need by creating a personal commercial. Write a 30-60 second speech that highlights your strengths and goals. Then recite it in front of the mirror aloud (or inside your head if you prefer) whenever you need a confidence boost.
    5. Gratitude
    When you focus too much on what you want, the mind creates reasons why you can’t have it. This leads you to dwell on your weaknesses. The best way to avoid this is consciously focusing on gratitude. Set aside time each day to mentally list everything you have to be grateful for. Recall your past successes, unique skills, loving relationships, and positive momentum. You’ll be amazed how much you have going for you and motivated to take that next step towards success.
    6. Compliment other people
    When we think negatively about ourselves, we often project that feeling on to others in the form of insults and gossip. To break this cycle of negativity, get in the habit of praising other people. Refuse to engage in backstabbing gossip and make an effort to compliment those around you. In the process, you’ll become well liked and build self confidence. By looking for the best in others, you indirectly bring out the best in yourself.
    7. Sit in the front row

    In schools, offices, and public assemblies around the world, people constantly strive to sit at the back of the room. Most people prefer the back because they’re afraid of being noticed. This reflects a lack of self confidence. By deciding to sit in the front row, you can get over this irrational fear and build your self confidence. You’ll also be more visible to the important people talking from the front of the room.
    8. Speak up
    During group discussions many people never speak up because they’re afraid that people will judge them for saying something stupid. This fear isn’t really justified. Generally, people are much more accepting than we imagine. In fact most people are dealing with the exact same fears. By making an effort to speak up at least once in every group discussion, you’ll become a better public speaker, more confident in your own thoughts, and recognized as a leader by your peers.
    9. Work out
    Along the same lines as personal appearance, physical fitness has a huge effect on self confidence. If you’re out of shape, you’ll feel insecure, unattractive, and less energetic. By working out, you improve your physcial appearance, energize yourself, and accomplish something positive. Having the discipline to work out not only makes you feel better, it creates positive momentum that you can build on the rest of the day.
    10. Focus on contribution
    Too often we get caught up in our own desires. We focus too much on ourselves and not enough on the needs of other people. If you stop thinking about yourself and concentrate on the contribution you’re making to the rest of the world, you won’t worry as much about you own flaws. This will increase self confidence and allow you to contribute with maximum efficiency. The more you contribute to the world the more you’ll be rewarded with personal success and recognition.

    May LORD KRISHNA Blesses you,
    Vibhor Kalra.

  • #63521
    We gain self confidence in what we have knowledge and experience and therefore know what we are capable of doing. If you don't think you can do something then try to compare to things you have done well in the past.

    If you need to make a quick decision in an area that you know you are unfamiliar with, the wise thing to do is to know where to go or who to go to in order to get the correct and best solution to your problem.

    I don’t know what the key to success is,
    But the key to failure is trying to please everyone...

  • #63688
    The best way to improve your self confidence is too look for the things that you want to achieve, that you desire, that you want and not those you have lost. Try to fill yourself with positive attitude, that will strengthen your confidence as well. Hesitation and shyness are the two limitations that hinder the confidence to ooze out. Try to kill these two things by practicing more and more on your weakness. Do not think what others are thinking of you, because whatever you are doing , its for yourself only not for others.

    So I consider following things essential to boost up your self confidence-

    1. Positive attitude
    2. Keeping aside the hesitation.
    3. Faith in you.

    These things if followed will surely improve the self-confidence.

    "By silence I conceal my imperfections and come to know others."

    Rohit Mian.

  • #63751
    Here are the ways to improve self confidence:
    # Recognize your insecurities. What does that voice in the back of your mind say? What makes you ashamed of yourself? This could be anything from acne, to regrets, or friends at school. Whatever is making you feel unworthy, ashamed, or inferior, identify it, give it a name, and write it down.

    # Talk about it with friends and loved ones. Wear it on your sleeve. Each day you should chip away at it; wear it down. There's no quick fix. Get to the root of the problem; focus on it and understand that you need to resolve each issue before you can move on.

    # Remember that no one is perfect. Even the most confident people have insecurities. At some point in any of our lives, we may feel we lack something. That is reality. Learn that life is full of bumps down the road.

    # Identify your successes. Everyone is good at something, so discover the things at which you excel, then focus on your talents. Give yourself permission to take pride in them. Give yourself credit for your successes. Inferiority is a state of mind in which you've declared yourself a victim. Do not allow yourself to be victimized. Express yourself, whether it's through art, music, writing, etc. Find something you enjoy. Everyone is born with talents and strengths. You can develop and excel in yours. If it's difficult to name two or three things you have some ability in or just plain love to do, think about things others do that you would like to do too and take some lessons or join an enthusiasts club. When you're following your passion, not only will it have a therapeutic effect, but you'll feel unique and accomplished, all of which can help build your self confidence. Plus, adding a variety of interests to your life will not only make you more confident, but it will increase your chances of meeting compatible friends!

    # Be thankful for what you have. A lot of the times, at the root of insecurity and lack of confidence is a feeling of not having enough of something, whether it's emotional validation, good luck, money, etc. By acknowledging and appreciating what you do have, you can combat the feeling of being incomplete and unsatisfied. Finding that inner peace will do wonders for your confidence.

    # Be Positive, even if you don't feel positive. Avoid self-pity, or the pity and sympathy of others. Never allow others to make you feel inferior--they can only do so if you let them. If you continue to loathe and belittle yourself, others are going to do and believe likewise. Instead, speak positively about yourself, about your future, and about your progress. Do not be afraid to project your strengths and qualities to others. By doing so, you reinforce those ideas in your mind and encourage your growth in a positive direction.

    # Accept compliments gracefully. Don't roll your eyes and say, "Yeah, right," or shrug it off. Take it to heart and respond positively ("Thank you" and a smile works well).

    # Look in the mirror and smile. Studies surrounding what's called the "facial feedback theory" suggest that the expressions on your face can actually encourage your brain to register certain emotions. So by looking in the mirror and smiling every day, you might feel happier with yourself and more confident in the long run.

    # Stick to your principles. It might be tough, but if you don't have something you can believe in, you don't have anything. If you don't stand for something, you will fall for anything. No matter what's happened in your life, you can always lay claim to the fact that from this day forward, you've followed your principles to the best of your ability.

    # Help others. When you know you're kind to the people around you, and are making a positive difference in other people's lives (even if it's just being kinder to the person who serves you coffee in the morning), you'll know that you are a positive force in the world--which will boost your self confidence. Go volunteer twice a month at an elementary school. Bake something for your neighbor for no reason. Confidence that you have earned is the most long-lasting.

  • #63754
    * Look for a model (someone who has self confidence) and learn from them. What is it they do that makes them confident, how do they act?
    * Focus on your achievements rather than your failures. If you do find yourself thinking about how you failed then look at what you managed to do right and how you could correct what you did next time.
    * Learn how to feel good about yourself
    * Act as if you were self confident! You will feel more confident.
    * Focus on who you are and what you like about yourself. Why do your friends like you?
    * Prepare thoroughly for any task so that you can be sure you are ready.
    * Work on any skills you need to do what you want, you can never be overtrained or over skilled for any challenge in life.
    * Work on your relaxation skills
    * Always smile and stand up straight
    * Set reachable goals for yourself and break difficult tasks into smaller steps
    * Reward yourself when you succeed no matter how small the achievement
    * Finally, I advise you not to be too competitive or compare yourself with others. Be yourself and accept that life is not a race against others but your self confidence depends on you and your personal needs.

  • #63816
    self confidence.... it comes if you have can determination...
    you may try for the result but how much confident you are?
    How much sincere you are?
    How much you are contributing for the job?
    do you have confidence of doing that?
    are you getting enough support you need?
    are you technically strong enough for the job?

    ..... such things are considered...

    any way all the best for your next try... i hope it will definitely lead to a positive result...

    but dont get disappointed...

  • #63827
    Dear kumaraguru,

    Developing self-confidence is not that easy nor is that so very difficult either. It needs incessant hard work, which is quite difficult. Nevertheless if you are ready to work hard then it would be just easy… as the hard work is going to result in a strong self-confidence.

    I answered a similar question in Yahoo Answer that was voted as Best Answer:

    Here is an answer for your question, based on the same line:

    1. You have to be physically and mentally strong: A healthy body is needed for a healthy mind… and if you have both of these qualities you are going to have an imposing personality that would make easy the process of developing self-confidence…
    2. Have in-depth knowledge of your subject: You have to be an expert on your subject… because if someone asks a question on your subject… you should not be caught unawares… and should not be left searching for a cover…
    On the other hand you should be in a position to convince the asker and prove that you know your subject well…
    3. Have a strong character: You should be identified as a dependable person… and people around you should have confidence in your character and undisputed integrity… your good image and position in the society would enhance your self confidence in you…
    4. Down to earth simplicity: you have to be a down to earth simple person… with no reservations… doesn’t make yourself an inaccessible individual… lest people will ignore you and you will be left alone… eventually losing your self confidence…

    You may also read the following ‘resource’ on a similar subject that may help improving self-confidence…

    Harish Jharia
    5 March 2009


    Harish Jharia

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