Conflicts in daily life
We come across many situations in life that bring us frustration and induce us to fight with someone to fulfil your needs. Usually conflicts do not bring positive results and solve the problem in an effective way. Although sometimes solve your problems yet bring some adverse effects to your life. You may permanently spoil your relationship with somebody. Despite of solving the problem in a conflicted way, you can solve the problem with more diplomacy and tactfulness. Conflicts should be avoided in most of the situations because they add disturbance to the ambience and your mind. Solving the conflicts of another person may be easier but solving own conflict can never be an easy task. When you are frustrated you are most likely to lose your temper and spoil the situation. But if you learn to gain control over your own anger then you can solve the problems in a more tactful manner.
Ways to solve conflicts
Do not raise your tone When you are angry over some matter with someone, you are more likely to lose your temper and raise your tone. If you raise your tone to somebody you are most likely to spoil your relationship with the person and aggravate the conflict at that situation. The situation becomes even graver when your guardians or the people upon whom you depend become abusive towards you for a small reason for eg. Your boss or your in-laws. You are stuck up between two solid layers because you are so frustrated and cannot tend to control your temper. On the other hand you are yet dependent on the people for money and shelter. Hence avoid raising your voice when you are angry because you have to face perilous results. Even if you want to oppose them speak to them in a very low tone instead with constraining your anger. Your low tone avoids many ill-results. You may even speak words such as 'No, please, I am not interested in a very low tone instead of highly raising your voice.
Speak in a sarcastic tone or words instead You cannot fully shun your temper at the moment because you are very frustrated. But instead you can convert your anger into energy by speaking words in a sarcastic way to make them understand that what you really mean. If you boss taunts you that you are not doing any work for the office. Despite of raising your tone and becoming abusive by using words such as ' I think you cannot see me, expect me everybody is lousy in the office ' or 'I am not provided with any value, you treat me like a dog', you can speak in a tactful way by using words such as ' I think you can see that everyone is working very hard, but I am not able to see that' or 'can you show me that how hard the other candidates are working as I have no idea about hard work' in a firm and low tone.
Take a deep breath When you are not able to hear many abusive words at a time, then just go to the corner of the house or office and take a deep breath without speaking a word. When you are just unable to bear the abusive words instead of entering into a conflict and causing physical and mental distress, you can just leave the place and take a deep breath.
Ignore completely When you do not have any other options left you just imagine that the person is not existing around you and you are absolutely surrounded by no one around you. in this way you can continue with your activities smoothly.
Conflict in daily life is inevitable. Moreover without conflict also the life is not much interesting. But one should not let the conflict to grow futher. How to avoid? Just leave the place for a moment. After a gap of time, plain discussion will solve everything.
This article gives some suggestions to avoid temper or conflicts. Sometimes, speaking in a sarcastic tone would aggravate the situation. The best way is to avoid any argument at that point of time and try to convince them afterwards. still if there would be no improvement, alternate method is to be explored. Particularly, when your are dealing with your Boss, silence in the first instance is best weapon. Raising tone at any place would definitely belittle your stature and gives a wrong picture to the audience.