Tips for parents with a child suffering from ADHD

My child suffers from Attention Deficit Disorder. The doctor says my child has ADHD or ADD. Teachers at school complain my child is hyperactive and inattentive. It is an awful situation for any parent to be in, but there are ways to help a child who has ADD, ADHD, and Attention Deficit Disorder and is hyperactive.

If your child has been diagnosed with attention deficit hyperactivity disorder (ADHD or ADD) know that you are not alone. There are scores of parents like you whose children suffer from this problem. As a parent, you can do a lot to help your child lessen and control the symptoms. You can use techniques that can help the child tide through day-to-day challenges, and also channelize his/her energy more positively. Your role is crucial in addressing the issue, and if done properly, you will most definitely help your child achieve. The key is in acknowledging that there is a problem and in learning to deal with it positively, for better and sure success.

My child has ADHD what should I do

  • Turn to your family (and friends) for support – you won't be able to manage on your own, so get all the assistance that you can
  • Get involve with your child and his activities
  • Create a structure where you set rules and a daily routine
  • Keep a tab on what your child eats – food habits could affect the symptoms
  • Rest is crucial for a child with ADHD – ensure yours gets enough sleep
  • Don't shy from discussing your child's problem with the teachers – work out strategies that can help them manage your child at school
  • Help your child to make friends

Help your child cope with ADHD

Typical symptoms of ADHD include the inability in comprehending and completing executive functions. They fail to think and reason or make future plans. They are disorganized and are unable to complete jobs or and are highly impulsive. This shifts a great deal of responsibility to you – and it is you who have to take charge, be a guide, while your kid slowly develops executive skills.

Dealing with a child with ADHD can be frustrating, but the child is not being exasperating knowingly. The child probably wants to sit noiselessly, be organized and do things the way other children do. They too have that innate desire to please their parents – but they do not have things under their control. What adults must understand is that ADHD can be as infuriating for the child as it is for them. An attitude of this understanding can help ease the situation, making it easier to react in encouraging, more supportive ways. Parents need patience, compassion and a support system around them, to successfully manage ADHD in their child.

ADHD and the family

When a family has a child that suffers ADHD, his behaviour impacts the entire family. It can greatly affect relationships and the equilibrium within the family. A child with ADHD can display a slew of behaviours that easily disturb family life:

  • They often turn a deaf ear to parental instructions and end up not obeying them
  • They are shambolic and messy and get distracted way too easily – and can get other family members agitated
  • They begin projects that they do not finish – leaving someone else to clean up the mess they create
  • Some kids suffer from impulsivity issues and will throw tantrums, seek attention and interrupt conversations at inappropriate times
  • Such children are also tactless and make embarrassing situations with their words and actions
  • Getting them to sleep can be Herculean task, because they never seem to tire
  • The hyperactive child is full of energy and will run around and be destructive with his playful ways and probably get hurt in the bargain

Bearing of ADHD on siblings

It is not easy for siblings of children with ADHD for often they find themselves enduring difficult situations:

  • They might feel ignored or left out as parents focus all their attention on the child with the problem
  • Parents might be more curt with them and reprimand them more severely when they err
  • Their accomplishments might be taken for granted or not appreciated enough
  • Parents may solicit their help and use them as assistants in handling the child with ADHD – and often find themselves responsible for their siblings misbehaviour
  • All this can affect the bond between siblings and the 'normal' child may display feelings of bitterness and jealousy against the sibling with ADHD

The effect of ADHD on parents

Looking after a child with ADHD can be arduous and draining, both mentally and physically. The child's failure to 'listen' to the parent can be infuriating and that can lead to frustration, which in turn makes the parent snap and show their anger on their child – followed by a feeling of guilt and remorse. It is a vicious cycle, which repeats itself, because parents feel trapped in a hapless situation.

Parents with children with ADHD can find themselves going through phases of anxiousness and stress. It is difficult for them to cope with the complex behaviour of their child. This can be debilitating for most parents, as they strive to see their child behave like other children.

Parents must work with the aim of meeting challenges of raising a child with ADHD. Parents must be consistent in their outlook, while being empathetic to their child's special needs. Remember it takes discipline to inculcate discipline, in a child. It will not be easy, but a proper attitude and a plan can make the job a wee bit easier. When you work with a plan, you set yourself goals, which become achievable when there is a pattern of persistence. A child with ADHD can be trained to overcome the problem – all he needs is an environment that understands him and provides him with affection, along with regular lessons in structured discipline, in easy to follow doses.

It is not going to be easy and that is the real challenge. As a parent, your job is to not give up trying. You might not get the results you expect - there is no instant remedy to your child's problem. However, remember that you can do it, and perhaps you are the only one who can do it. You have a lot invested in your child and believe me with a little practice and a little tact you will get there, slowly, but surely. So, keep at it and good luck. If you have any queries, feel free to post them in the comment section.

Article by Juana
Juana is a freelance writer, with years of experience, creating content for varied online portals. She holds a degree in English Literature and has worked as a teacher and as a soft skill trainer. An avid reader, she writes on a variety of topics ranging from health, travel, education and personality development.

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Author: Venkiteswaran26 Jan 2017 Member Level: Diamond   Points : 1

ADD is most often not understood.It is hence ignored and parents and teachers come to know about it only when their normal assessment and remedial actions fail to change the child's behaviour pattern.
However the trigger factors also come from the parents and elders. Utmost understanding and patient response is primarily needed from parents and elders including teachers. Present day compulsions do not help much in this. But one has to put sincere and patient efforts and find ways to tackle other issues keeping in mind the child's need in priority.

Author: Juana02 Feb 2017 Member Level: Platinum   Points : 7

There is also a kind of stigma attached to behavioral conditions in children and parents, generally, do not accept the fact that their child could be suffering from ADHD. Most times parents are in denial and take their child to be just ‘naughty’; even going to the extent of taking pride in the child's antics. A few parents think that the teacher/school is targeting their child and so get aggressive in their interactions with them. They fail to see reason.

Today, many schools employ counselors and behavioral psychologists who can observe and interact with a child and determine the problem. It is important that parents listen to the advice offered to them, by someone qualified to do so. After all, it is for the good of the child.

Early help actually benefits. Parents with a child suffering from ADHD also require counselling to help them deal with their child and get better results. It can be stressful for the parent, but the right guidance can help them channelize their time and energy and that of their child’s in the right direction.

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