A do's and don'ts guide for parents of children with ADHD

ADHD is a behavioural disorder that many children suffer and young teen suffer from. The problem can also continue into adulthood. However, parents can learn to work their way around the problem by following simple, doable actions. Use this article as a guide if you have a child who has this disorder.

Every parent sets the stage for their child's physical and emotional health. It is the things that you do that decide your child's wellbeing. As a parent, you either unwittingly or willfully control factors that can have an influence on the symptoms of your child's disorder. If you do things right – the results will be positive, if you take a wrong step your actions could inadvertently lead to adverse effects. Learn to do things right and you will in all probability be well equipped to deal with your child with ADHD.

Here are top tips on what specialist advice parents should do:

Be optimistic

Optimism is a powerful positive attitude that can help you tide over life's toughest challenges. Use it as an asset in helping your child deal with ADHD. Try not to get agitated, even when your child is testing your patience. Staying calm helps you maintain focus. You are able to channelize your energies properly and are better able to bond with your child, helping him in the process, to remain calm and focused as well. Your behaviour also rubs off on your child.

Keep things in perspective

Your child has a disorder, which is why he behaves unreasonably. Your child's behaviour is out of his control – he does not do things to irritate you. He does it because he has a problem. Take a chill pill; learn to enjoy the funny elements of the whole situation, instead of being tense and getting worked up. It is not going to help either you or your child. What is uncomfortable today may turn into a beautiful memory, to share in future.

Compromise is the key

Do not be a perfectionist when it comes to dealing with a child, especially one with ADHD. Learn to take it easy. It is no big deal if your child fails to finish all his chores, be happy with whatever he accomplishes and applaud his efforts. Look at the positives – if he completes his homework and does a few other things right, then that is some improvement. Do not be obsessive with getting him to do all that you expect of the child. You will only be disappointed with all the expectations you create.

Have faith in your child

Write down or mentally go through all the positive things about your child. This is important because it makes you aware of the positive, the valuable and the exceptional qualities your child possesses. Believe that your child can be like all other children – that he will learn to do things right, that he will change and become mature and prosper. Believe in your child is an important task for you to do. It will make you look at things differently and you will see the brighter side of the grim situation you might otherwise find yourself in.

Do not neglect yourself

You need to be in good shape physically, emotionally and mentally to be able to look after your child. Children draw strength from their parents. Your personal wellbeing greatly reflects your overall behaviour. If you are healthy in all aspects you will have more patience and stamina to deal with your child. When you are strong you do not lose focus and can concentrate effectively on improving your child. Eat healthily and exercise regularly. Find ways to reduce stress levels.

Seek support

You cannot do it alone – so do not try and attempt it. You need all the help that you can get. Help does not mean friends and family, but also your child's physician and therapist and the teachers at school. Join support groups, particularly, ones that focus on parents of children with ADHD. Such groups can be an excellent place for receiving guidance. Parents share their experiences and vent their frustration. You can learn so much from others experiences.

Find me time

You do not have to be tied down with your child – you must find time for yourself as well. Turn to family and friends who can look after your child for a few hours, while you can unwind. Go to the Spa or watch a movie. You need to rejuvenate yourself – and you do not have to feel guilty about it.

Get a pet

Pets can be a good distraction for you and your child. Pets are known to act as stress busters for adults. Kids, especially those suffering from ADHD, learn to be responsible when they share the responsibility of the pet. They also direct their energies, satisfactorily.

Establish a pattern, and follow it

Children with ADHD function best if there is a set routine for them to follow. They do not like changes and respond well to predictable patterns and routines. Your job is to ensure that your child's routine is not disrupted. Create and maintain patterns to get your child to complete a task, so your child knows what to do, where to do, and when to do the things expected of him. It is quite a regimental routine, but it helps the child.

There is a lot of information available online that can be of help. Educate yourself on new techniques and therapies that you can use to help your child. There will always be some information that will work for you. Go through the tips for parents with a child with ADHD for a better understanding of what you can do. Finally, do not lose hope and do not give up. Work with your child to overcome his disorder. Good luck!

If you have any questions, feel free to leave them in the comments section, and I will try and answer them to the best of my knowledge.

Article by Juana
Juana is a freelance writer, with years of experience, creating content for varied online portals. She holds a degree in English Literature and has worked as a teacher and as a soft skill trainer. An avid reader, she writes on a variety of topics ranging from health, travel, education and personality development.

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Author: Swati Sarnobat17 Apr 2017 Member Level: Gold   Points : 3

Useful article for ADHD parents. The children should be consistently encouraged and motivated because such children are constantly searching for security. The parents of such children should become smarter. They should not react to child's ill behavior, but respond cleverly. Instead of shouting at the child, the parents should instruct them not to do so, but explain in what way right action can be done. They should always allow their children to play independently and explore the world. Their exta energy should be burned by constant exercise to the body.

Author: Juana28 Apr 2017 Member Level: Platinum   Points : 3

Absolutely. Children with ADHD need constant attention. They have to be guided through each day, through every step. It is not easy, and parents need to be patient around their children with ADHD.

The good thing is that children with the problem soon settle into a routine if it is constantly repeated. With proper rest, diet and discipline these kids can be normal. It is a lot of work for the parents, but I am sure the end result is worth all the effort.

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