Introduction Falling in love is no one's fault but if it is an inter-religious or inter-caste relationship, one has to face a lot of challenges throughout. If you are ready to face it and you truly love your partner, then go ahead as the life is all yours. The main reason why some people are not ready to accept inter-religious relationships is because, in the past, in our country, hardly anyone would enter, or even think about getting into a relationship with someone of a different religion. However, now the trend is changing and young people are coming forward with inter-religious affairs. There is nothing wrong in it because keeping aside religion and caste, we all are humans, but we should have an idea of the challenges we will have to face and should be prepared for it. Don't love someone just to drop it halfway in the name of religion and caste. Those are just man created segregation.
The main challenges of an Inter-Religious Marriage We live in a society where people are interested in other's issues than their's. So when they hear about an inter-religious marriage, they will be more than interested to cook up stories and to add flame to the fire. Marriage is a very important decision in one's life and it decides our future happiness. So be very careful and practical while taking a decision. Other than religion and caste there are other important factors one need to consider before getting into a relationship and that is compatibility and the strength of the love between each other. If you love deeply and find the other person suitable for you, be ready to face the challenges together. Here I have listed some of the main challenges one has to face while in an inter-religious relationship or marriage.
Conclusion Those who are in inter-religious relationship should get married as per the Special Marriage Act. Before getting married understand each other thoroughly and make sure you are ready to face all the above challenges in your life together. If you have a 0.01% doubt, please rethink about it. Love should be real and from the heart and not just on the spur of the moment. It is your life and you can't play with it and there is no point regretting later. Hence forward thinking and planning is essential in the case of inter-religious and inter-caste marriages. It is always better to start your married life with every one's support and blessings, so work for it.
A nice article bringing out the features and challenges of an inter-religious marriage.
I just want to say that religion is something very deeply ingrained in the human minds as they are brought up generally in a religious environment or religious society. Religion has become an integral part of a society and it reflects from its various religious procedures and functions celebrated by that particular community. Even the people who are not staunch believers in any religion are afraid of the wrath of religious groups or leaders. The most amazing and intriguing thing about religion is that there are people who are ready to sacrifice even their life, what to say of their wealth etc for their religion. You can say it is a blind thing but unfortunately it is there and the politicians are, instead of reforming, exploiting this blindness.
In this situation we have to see how bold and brave are the people who are going for inter-religious marriages and sustaining it till end. So it is not an easy decision to go for such marriages until and unless the couple is very sure about their intentions, love and also their ability to face the world subsequently.
A very good article by the author. The way the author has put the facts is very good. "We live in a society where people are interested in other's issues than their's" is a real quality of the society which the author has depicted in this one sentence. My appreciations to the author.
Another factor that comes in is food habits and the way of living. In case if one is Vegetarian and the other is Non-vegetarian in inter-caste marriages, it will also create some problem. Generally, the way of life will be having a lot of differences. So the couples should think these issues also before getting tied up. A lot of sacrifices are required from both in these inter-religious marriages. A good understanding and adapting to each other is very important. So a serious thought is required before getting married and in case of any little doubt, a rethinking on the decision is required.
The challenges being faced in the inter-religious marriages is well written in this great article. I am of the opinion that when both boy or the girl who are from different religion/castes and decide to get marry, they must be prepared for the onslaught to be followed later from both side. Parents have high hopes on children and they want to see them settle in their life with good job and a marriage and then with children. All their aspirations and expectations cannot be discarded, thrown to wind due to the so called love marriage proposal and that too from inter caste. There are many problems to be faced. First of all both the families has to be convinced and they must adjust with each other. I do not think they would adjust and keep their ego fit. Food habits are different. And when a child is born, what name has to be christened. All these happens post marriage and the couples must be ready to face the tunes.
A simple article on a complex social issues. A good read for people of different castes who want to become partners from being friends. Not everyone is lucky to fall in love and love doesn't come with an invitation. It just happens and it can happen between people of different faiths. Very happy to note that the author has listed 'No support' as the first challenge as practically it's the first knee jerk reaction of family and some friends (not all) and support(emotional,social,financial) from close ones is vital for the marriage to stay intact. It's better to get parents on board, even if takes time for them to accept.
Being friends or being in love is totally different from being married. Being married brings it's own share of responsibilities, duties and commitment. This is not a one day process, it's day in and day out for the rest of the married life. There would be numerous instances for issues or arguments to crop up and both would be left alone to deal with it and this requires trust and maturity on both sides.
Couple of issues that I feel useful is the fact of money and assets. Running a family needs money, so at least one partner has to diligently work or have a decent amount from family for a rainy day. Such couples should have an idea of what the families need in terms of saving for a home, saving for emergencies, saving for children's education etc.This is because finance is an integral part of long term relationships.
Claiming ownership of properties of the family of the bride or bridegroom also is difficult as many parents would not be in speaking terms or would not be in favor of giving a share of the family property for a son or daughter who has shamed them. These issues also should be anticipated and settled amicably.
Even today, there is a news report about an inter-religious couple granted protection by the court to live together without fear to their life. But the couple says that they are still getting threats and that the
grooms family is threatened to warn that the groom's sister will be abducted. The court has ordered police protection for them. This is the state of affairs in a state claiming to be literate- Kerala. The broadminded public was shocked at the terrific incident of kidnap and murder of one Kevin, the male partner of a love relationship, though of the same religion but of different economic status- that too in Kerala.
So we have to fear that the society is now on retrograde. Even those who are supposed to be broad-minded and claim to be so are different when it comes to their personal or family matters.
The risk interfaith marriage face is still not eliminated or has vanished totally.
While politicians give rhetoric on intolerance there is this kind of intolerance at ground level.Many events show that the intolerance is practised in exactly the opposite way of what the politicians blame.