IntroductionMentally tough people do not break down when circumstances are not favorable to them. They instead deal situations with enough grace and strength. They may not be having enough resources, skills or talents, but what they acquire is strong mind which is the most important thing or quality needed to turn unfavorable situation into favorable one. They never let cynicism rule the day. They are not scared of tough times; in fact each and every tough situation helps them to bounce back even stronger. They have grit at their core. Consistency is the perfect term to define them as they are persistent in both failures and success. They do not get disappointed of losses they face or failures they encounter. Loses and failures challenge them. There are certain qualities which they possess and these qualities itself make them out-stand others. A tough minded individual is the one who does not run away during times of despair and faces all sorts of odds with sheer strength and confidence. If we want to make ourselves mentally strong, to not let turbulence's during difficult times shake us then we need to inculcate certain qualities within us.
Tips to become tough minded
We need to keep motivating ourselves if we want to achieve strong mental strength. Motivation and focus are very closely related. The moment we shift our focus from our goal towards less important things, our motivation drops down and we start feeling low. Our motivations are closely linked to our values. Suppose if we value friendship then friends are the ones who will best motivate us. We need to determine the subjects or objects which can keep motivating us. Once we find them then there is no looking back as motivation which we will then be continuously receiving will keep driving us to achieve what we want.
We live with preconceived beliefs. Once we develop control over ourselves, we can challenge ourselves with these beliefs. If we feel that we cannot succeed in certain sector or an area, we can challenge ourselves in doing the same. When we try and succeed, only then we will realize that how false our beliefs were. There is no limit for anything. Tough minded individuals can thus very well fare during adversities because they do not restrict themselves. For them, adversity is same as good time as their focus is more inwards then outwards. They cannot control adversity, but rather they can control themselves and thus they work with equal pace and quiet mind and therefore they never fall back. It is important to develop control over ourselves and challenge our old beliefs. We will very well find ourselves enlarging our own territory and keep developing our mental strength. We need to understand that we ourselves are responsible for our actions and reactions.
We need to challenge ourselves on everyday basis and at the end of the day, we need to analyze where we reacted and how we reacted. All those issues which shook us should be brought forward. Changes have to be made in our belief system and the fear and insecurities which we hide deep down our subconscious mind should be removed. We need to develop a thicker skin. We cannot keep worrying about other's statements and judgments as we cannot control them. We need to learn to remain on even kneel even under sheer pressure and difficult times. When we keep our emotions under control then we can make right decisions. Unnecessary stress and tension is of no use. We need to channel our energy in right direction and not waste it unleashing on others.
Instead of running away from difficult situations, we have to boldly face them. When we start facing reality then we start making practical decisions in our life. This again will bring positive change in our attitude. Overriding belief itself is the one which separates tough minded optimistic individuals from others. Optimism helps us to embrace the situation and thus we stop complaining and start taking a more realistic approach towards our problems. Seeing positive side of everything will help us to keep negativity away. When everything is so positive then nothing wrong can take place. This kind of attitude will keep our hopes high, even when we have lost everything. We need to be always in search of that ray of hope and this hope and positive attitude itself will help us sail through most difficult times. We need to therefore develop this kind of optimistic attitude in ourselves if we want to strengthen our mental ability.
ConclusionWe need to keep ourselves motivated both internally and externally. We need to find company of others as well as all those objects which will boost our metabolism. Internally we need to consistently remind ourselves about our goal and keep ourselves motivated. We need to learn to control ourselves. We can neither let others nor let circumstances control us. When we accomplish this, we get rid of all the scary feelings and insecurities of losing during tough times. We understand what is in our control and what isn't and thus we do not try to control over things which we cannot. To become mentally tough, we need to stop worrying and keep our mind stress and tension free. If we shift our focus to unnecessary matters then our goal seems unattainable. Our complete focus and attention should be on our goal. We should not allow ourselves to become vulnerable over small, silly issues. This will help us in long run as every day we will work towards strengthening our mental ability. An optimistic outlook towards everything will further help us to make our mind strong and tough. All these qualities when we inculcate in ourselves, we become successful in making ourselves mentally tough. To know more such tips which can increase mental toughness, go through How to become tough minded: Part-1
Valuable tips are given to improve our inner self when faced with adversity. Motivation is something that doesn't come easily as many humans are used to what is given to them rather than making an effort to reach out for what they want. We should be motivated and inspired constantly to reach the targets that we have set for ourselves. Instead of blaming our misfortune, we have to understand our strengths and weaknesses to quickly overcome failures.
At difficult times, the fickle mind wanders all over and many negative thoughts haunt us. We need to be firm in our belief and have a positive attitude to dispel all negative thoughts.
True character and a die-hard attitude show up when we are tested by difficulties, major financial setbacks, a failed relationship or bereavement of a close family member. In such instances having a purpose in life, self-discipline, spiritual and emotional well being helps us to tide over the crisis by making us tougher than we are.
Very practical two part article. Must read for people looking for solace or how to tide a crisis in life.
The author showed a better flow in this part of the article. To be frank Part II is much better written by the author.
When we decide on goals and target we should take an appraisal of ourselves and also conduct SWOT analysis for our own self. We will understand what are our strengths and weaknesses, what are the opportunities and threats for our progress better when we do that. Once we know these things and make our goals automatically we will get strong and we will become tough-minded. nobody can misguide us and we will have the required confidence in our acts. As a self-motivated person, you will know where you have the avenues to progress. This will bring you a toughness to you in your approach