Introduction You may be quoted out of context, you don't have any reasons but get ignored by friends. you try to unearth the unanswered questions and uncomfortable emotions. Your friends abruptly cease talking to you and pretend that you no longer exist. The feeling of being ignored can be worse than feeling rejected because it makes you feel like you don't matter at all. But what to do when this type of problem arises?Remember, every friendship is a variable which is not a constant and it will have its peaks and valleys.
Raju was busy in a bank to withdraw money from his account and received a call from his friend. He picked up the call and told him that he would be calling after he comes out of the bank. His friend was in need of some urgent help and awaiting his call back. Poor Raju forgot to call back and thought he would call again when he remembered about his call. The silence continued over a period of time developing an ego factor. Such communication gaps lead to a long spell of silence between friends. We have to think many factors before feeling ignored or avoided by our friends.
A Formula-10 to overcome the situation A friendship is not a readily available commodity in the market and a product of so much effort put after evaluating the mutual understanding, withstanding to rough weathers and proving to be an indicator to be ever lasting. But times may create a situation to feel hurt when your best friend ignores you. But the reasons may be beyond the scanner of your mental Radar and here are the better ways to deal with the situation:
If you have explored all the above possibilities and exhausted all your efforts, yet you won't get a positive sign from your so called friend who is ignoring you, then it is your turn to think how to move on. Trust yourself and in this process trust your friend too. After all, it is a give and take policy and applicable to both the parties.
Wrap UpThe 10 Point formula mentioned above is not always a 'Zindal Thalisman' (herbal medicine) for every friendship and particularly those who are in love or any relationship. Here, friendship is counted as the one which is of long term value without any anticipations but is concerned with the people whom we trust and from whom we expect advice in the need of the hour.
Jagdish Patro is a freelance writer and a regular contributor to ISC and other websites. Fond of reading books, novels and spends his leisure time by listening to music. He did his B.Sc in Applied Chemistry and his M.Sc in Resource Development Technology. He edited and published an in-house monthly journal by name ‘Srujana’ during 2009-2011 which was totally a private circulation.
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In my opinion, a real friend will never ignore us. But some people try to be friendly with you for some reason or other. Once the mission is completed they may conveniently forget and may not give a proper response to you. In such a case, we should leave them and need not to worry about their friendship. Many times when we will feel that we are getting ignored by friends it will make us worried. When we call them, they may not respond and may not revert back also. We can try by calling another time and even then if they are not responding, it would be better to ignore them and forget about them.
We should be able to differentiate the real friends should keep in touch with those friends only. Sometimes the common persons whom you and your friend know may also try to create unnecessary misunderstanding between you. We should keep a watch on such persons and we should try to remove the misunderstandings by having an open discussion with the friend.
The author has given good points regarding the course of actions one has to take if a friend of you is trying to avoid you. A good article.